• good bye

    Asked by chekiert on Thursday, October 30, 2014

    good bye

    this site is wonderful for those that treatment has and is working. I am so happy for you..fighting for years, being able to work, drive ,care for your families. Wonderful! Keep it up. I must say good bye because it causes me too much grief. my husband's cancer spread so quickly that I watched him drop 75 lbs in 4 months and die in my arms exactly 5 months after complaining that he didn't feel well. Keep on fighting. I pray for you all.

    17 Answers from the Community

    17 answers
    • Qsommer34's Avatar

      So sad, so sorry Chekiert

      You aren't alone, I find I tend to only report good news. Believe me, it's not all 'success.' I personal sit in stunned silence unable to even gather a clear thought when the outcome is bleak. My heart goes out to you, and as my husband (53, lost 60lbs in 5months after what we thought was his 'usual' back pain at the beginning of the summer) tires of his 'treatment' for Pancreatic Cancer, I fear it may be a losing battle as well. And if he wants to just 'rest'.. I'll have to honor that.

      These vessels are temporary.
      Big Hugs,


      about 5 years ago
    • cam32505's Avatar

      It's hard to hear of someone's good news when your own news isn't good. But, we pray and comfort each other. We can't bring your husband back to you, but hopefully, we can help you learn to cope with the loss. I hope you find some comfort in the days, weeks, months ahead. I lost my mother 1.5 years ago and thought the pain was unbearable, but whenever I think of her, I try to think of the times that she was herself and happy. I hope you can remember some of those times yourself.

      about 5 years ago
    • Joeyb's Avatar

      So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

      about 5 years ago
    • IronMom45's Avatar

      So sorry for your loss. Maybe in time you can return and filter what you see to those going just what you are or find a site that addresses just what you are going through. Heart felt sympathy.

      about 5 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar

      I am so sorry, Chekiert! My mom experienced much the same thing with my dad ... 48 at diagnosis. He died two months after he turned 49, 6 months after his cancer was found during a routine checkup. It is a horrible disease and i am very, very sorry to hear that your husband lost his battle to it.

      I have read recently here of several other women who lost their husbands. I wish i could remember who so that you all could get together in a sub-group and share experiences and offer one another a different kind of support. I haven't had to go through losing a spouse so i can only imagine how difficult it is.

      Best of luck and prayers for peace!

      about 5 years ago
    • lilymadeline's Avatar

      I’m so sorry that you lost your husband, I wish I could say or do something to help you! Hugs!
      I would look into a support group, because many cancer support communities offer support groups for the surviving spouses of cancer patients. Prayers and hugs! Good luck to you and God bless!

      about 5 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      I had a similar experience with both parents as they were diagnosed and one was gone within one month after we were told it was progressing, and the other was gone in 8 months. It's terrible thing to watch and be a part of. I'm deeply sorry that you had to experience that. We all wish you the best and one day be at peace. Thanks for being with us, I hope we were some small help to you when you visited.

      about 5 years ago
    • kashubian's Avatar

      Sorry for your loss. Remember that we are here and we understand. Until you heal, hugs and sympathy.

      about 5 years ago
    • bobhess' Avatar

      God bless!

      about 5 years ago
    • chekiert's Avatar

      thank you. I will try to find a spouse group..good idea.

      about 5 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar

      I feel great sorrow when I hear of someone who as lost a loved one to this desease. So many here have lost loved ones. I pray for your comfort.

      about 5 years ago
    • Judt1940's Avatar

      Chekiert, please go to the doctor, get a checkup and get some help for depression during this time. My husband passed away almost three years ago and my health started failing. I feel so sad for you reading your note. Life won't be the same but you must to be with your children and grandchildren. Take care of yourself.

      about 5 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      I'm so sorry for your loss. If your husband was in hospice care, most hospices have some sort of grief/bereavement program. My mom was in hospice care for a stroke. She passed away in July. Now I'm taking a meditation workshop & just participated in a healing drum circle. There are also many different support groups. And these workshops & groups are all at no charge. I hope you can find a group that will help you through this difficult time; I wish you peace.

      about 5 years ago
    • ElizaM's Avatar

      There but for the Grace of God go all of us. Your story is the saddest thing that we are all working so hard to avoid but may ultimately come to us all. I hope most sincerely that you can understand you are living our worst fear and you remind us to be so very grateful for any positive steps we take, not to mention waking up each morning. Thank you for sharing with us, and may peace be yours eventually.

      about 5 years ago
    • Keith59's Avatar

      Prayers my friend!

      about 5 years ago
    • SullyJackson's Avatar

      So sorry for your loss. I hope you can find the help and support you need so much at this time. Hugs.

      about 5 years ago
    • geekling's Avatar

      So very sorry for your loss.

      about 5 years ago

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