• grief

    Asked by boko7813 on Monday, December 16, 2013

    grief

    My husband passed away at 35 after 20months of treatment. By the second type of treatment he went from stage 2 to stage 4 within months of diagnosis. My question is what makes melanoma so aggressive.

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    • melanomamama's Avatar
      melanomamama

      What a sad loss for you. I am glad that you could reach out to us so soon after his death. We are all baffled by this nasty cancer. There seems to be no rhyme or reason as to why some of us get a temporary reprieve from melanoma, and others don't. It sounds like he did all he could to beat it. Even with the best of medical care and the best of personal attitudes, the beast can pounce with little warning. I hope you find a way to navigate your grief.
      Constance Emerson Crooker

      about 6 years ago
    • boko7813's Avatar
      boko7813

      When my husband diagnosed the primary area was his anal area. So at that time the Drs told us it would be hard to treat because it is in a spot when most people do not get it. So there is no set treatment. they tried yerovoy, interferon and then they tried a type of chemo. He was good one day and the next day he had breathing issues which lead him to the ER and that was it he was then transferred to another hospital and that was it,

      about 6 years ago
    • JackieK's Avatar
      JackieK

      I am deeply sorry for your loss...I have been struggling with melanoma for two and a half years now. I was diagnosed when I as 19 years old and have been scared of this happening to me. My melanoma has been a very fast acting one and it is because I have the b-raf mutation. Not everyone has this but maybe your husband did. I recommend doing an online research of both melanoma and the b-raf mutation. Take care.

      about 6 years ago

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