My brother called me a work on a friday to tell me mom was in the hospital and had started chemo When my mother went through her short deadly battle with cancer, I lived much futher away 12 hour drive one way. I was like you it was tearing me up inside. I could think of nothing but her, cried like a baby, and here i was a grown man with a good job, 2 small kids, 12 hours away what was I going to do? My brother said she wanted me to call her Sunday that she was going home that day. Sunday comes and I call her and told here I had planed to take the next week vacation to come see her. Her voice was the voice I remember when I was a kid of no do not do that, that is not what I want she said. She told me she wanted me to take care of my family and be the productive adult she tought me to be, that she did not even want me to come down to see her. She did not want me to remember her this way. And if I did come she would not see me. In my head im going what? I am flipping out here. She said you remember when you would come home and we played Crazy 8's? I said sure I do, she stopped me right there and said that is the way I want you to remember me, full of life having a good time not like this. I cried so hard I had to give the phone to my wife. She talked a few while im walking around balling like a baby and my wife hung up the phone. She said she wanted you to call her next Sunday. She passed the next friday. I had not seen my mother in 2 years now I would never see her again.
As the years pass and I think of my mother I do not see a person that is in pain inflicted with cancer and chemo, I see the loving mother sitting at the kitchen table playing Crazy 8's eating PBJ's and a cold glass of milk. Yes I do think of many other good and bad times we had in our life, but I always think of her and I playing Crazy 8's singing, laughing and having fun. Today I think it is the most motherly thing she had ever done for me. It was all I could do to make the planting of my mother everyone was waiting on us to get there, held up for an hour till we got there. All I could say was " you only get one mother in life and I got the best"!!!