• Hair still far too short and need to get picture ID this year; advice as to what I can do?

    Asked by ChildOfGod4570 on Friday, February 7, 2014

    Hair still far too short and need to get picture ID this year; advice as to what I can do?

    Now this might be a stupid question, but here goes. I have found out I need to get my state ID renewed this year, but I want to wait for my hair to look more normal, lest this salt and pepper flat top look be immortalized for all to see every time I need to show picture ID. I know I can't wear my wig because I won't look like that forever, and I don't want to do it immediately because I don't intend to wear my hair this short forever either. I have until the fall to renew my ID, so any advice is welcome. Another thing is all my pics have been of me before diagnosis andchemo, so my hair is significantly different from what shows on my current ID and my passport, for both of these show me with long, dark brown hair. Does the DMV have a protocol for those of us going through cancer related hair issues right when our photo ID is due for renewal? Any advice is appreciated! Thanks and God bless.

    19 Answers from the Community

    19 answers
    • cam32505's Avatar

      I had a similar problem when I was through with chemo. I went to the gym and they wanted to get a picture id of me. I told them not today, but that didn't last too long. Eventually, they insisted on the picture, so I left my winter hat on and that's how my picture looks. As for driver's license, I know you have to show that everywhere you go, but women are always changing our hair style, color, etc, so it's not too much of a stretch that your hair would look different on your driver's license anyway. Just wear whatever makes you look the best at the time.

      over 7 years ago
    • ladyhawk's Avatar

      have about a nice hat?

      over 7 years ago
    • Brielle's Avatar

      After my first hair loss, I had my picture for my drivers license taken when my hair was very short and had started growing. Now when using my license for ID, no one has ever questioned me even though I look very different now with my wig after another hair loss. Do what you feel comfortable doing. It is relative to us all in a different manner.

      over 7 years ago
    • Carol1286's Avatar

      My license came up for renewal last November. I worried what to do. I was totally bald. I usually wear hats. I have a wig, but it's itchy so I rarely wear it. I donned the wig, went to the DMV and had my picture taken. The guy stared at the new picture and the old picture for a minute or so. He had a puzzled look on his face. I waited for him to say something, but he never did. He finally just gave me the two licenses and I left with a smile. I figure when I have more hair the way I like, I'll go back to the DMV and have a new picture taken rather than carrying the wig reminder around for four years.

      over 7 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar

      two thoughts…
      one - go bald and OWN IT!!!!!! why the heck not????
      two - get your photo done… and then "lose" your license once you love your hair again….

      over 7 years ago
    • CrazyHarry's Avatar

      Just be lucky you aren't in Arizona. They issue lifetime licenses.

      Good luck with whatever you choose. Nice to hear they you are on the mend.

      over 7 years ago
    • luvnlife's Avatar

      I went through this as well. My hair was super short, and salt/pepper when I had passport photo taken in 2005. What could I do, we were traveling, it was my first passport. Due to renew in 2015, and I'm still here so I'm happy. I don't care what anyone thinks. What you see is what you get. ID photos are notorious for being awful, just laugh and smile, no one will notice. All the best.

      over 7 years ago
    • Bunnies' Avatar

      I had the same issue in November. I wore a hat, but plan on getting a replacement license when I have hair that I thinks looks like me. Best wishes.

      over 7 years ago
    • junie1's Avatar

      My licenses are up for renewal this year also,, and when i pull out my current license, it does not at all look like me today. I've changed my hair color, hair style, since way back it 2004,, and actually now I could renew thur the mail.. so don't need to even go to the DMV! which then in another 10 yrs,, I certainally Won't Look like what i did in 2004! So,, as for you,, being bald,, be like my daughter,,her saying is,, "Cancer, Embrace It!, Own IT! ",, I'm not sure why women get so upset about the hair thing,, for me,, it's just like the boob thing,, Hair doesnt' make us as a women,, the boobs don't make us as women either... It's our inner being that makes us... Go,, have your picture taken,, in what you are comfortable with,, and if you go bald,, good for you! Cancer is not the hush, hush sickness it once was projected as.. i see women all time in public, being bald or with a cap, wrap, and I think to myself,,,( good for that woman,, she is owning it,, not afraid of what anyone is thinking or saying,, good for her),,, sorry didn't mean to go so,, but we have to accept what has happened to our bodies,, and I'm glad I'm still here,,, I'm a 19 yr survivor..

      over 7 years ago
    • Mikilog's Avatar

      I had to renew my license and apply for a passport. I did it with my wig on ,women change their appearance with hair styles and color I don't think anyone would really pay attention to it. I hope, for identification they look at my features instead.

      over 7 years ago
    • baridirects' Avatar

      If you are not comfortable wearing your wig for the picture, I'm not sure you have much in the way of choices here...you could, if you like, get a really stunning headwrap or turban and wear that if your current look is not what you want. The good news is that you still have several months before you absolutely have to get the new picture, so your hair will have had a chance to grow out further from how it is now. If you haven't already, you might want to see your stylist and talk about interim styles while you are waiting for your hair to grow out - he/she can perhaps start to shape it now, and color it when it gets a little closer to the time you need the picture done. You can inquire at your local DMV about their policies, but I'd be willing to bet there's nothing on the books to address something like this.

      My hair is coming in salt and pepper too...but I've had so many compliments on it, I've decided not to color it again, and just let it go natural. I'd like it to be a little longer than it is now, but in the meantime, I'm rockin' it, just as I did when I was bald :-)


      over 7 years ago
    • fiddler's Avatar

      The Cancer Society sells wigs on the cheap. Wear it and pitch it if you wish. Or find one that looks more like the hair you had before it fell out.

      over 7 years ago
    • CAL's Avatar

      I was in a similar position having had long straight hair all my life. My driver's license was due for renewal in January 2014, That was a year post chem and 8 months after I had started going without my wig. My hair was nice and thick and curly and about 2 1/2 inches long by that time. Knowing that it would probably loose the curl once I got it cut, I just tried to comb it and style it a bit straighter when I went for my renewal. Ironically, I got it cut a few weeks later and although it is not as curly as it was, I still have nice body and curl so the picture looks pretty much like me with just a slightly different cut so as cam32505 says women are always changing their hair styles/color etc. If you have til Fall, things will be quite a bit different by then. If worse comes to worse, you can always pay for a new license in a couple years when your hair is back to whatever it will be long term.

      over 7 years ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar

      Call the DMV and ask if they have a protocol. Years ago I lost my driver's license and my picture was re-made, but nowadays they probably store the pictures in the computer. I think you could tell them the real reason you want to re-make your picture, and they might think it was a good idea for I.D. purposes. If not, don't let it bother you---not that important. Good luck!

      over 7 years ago
    • barbdee's Avatar

      Go to the DMV with pride...short hair, no hair, wigs but they won't allow hats! Celebrate that you can actually drive & be standing to get your pic taken. I never hid my baldness or now my salt & pepper, crazy wavy short hair. I love it! It will be a kick to see the progress between that pic in the fall & you, years from now! Enjoy!

      over 7 years ago
    • barbsrec's Avatar

      I have to renew my drivers license and passport this year and my hair looks like barbed wire. It goes in all directions. I'm wearing a wig and makeup, my wig makes me look about 15 years younger and I'm all about looking younger. It's a wig for me. Let us know what you decide.

      over 7 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      I was lucky. I had my surgery in August 2012, started chemo in Sept and my license was up for renewal in Oct. I called and found out I could get it renewed up to 90 days early. So I got my license while I still had my long hair. If you truly hate your picture, I like the idea of "losing" your id. Or accidentally dropping it in the shredder... Good luck.

      over 7 years ago
    • spdsgrl's Avatar

      Go bald... My passport is cue ball bald! Who cares...all part of my journey. Just like a stamp in my passport. ;-). If you want just say you ?"lost" it when your hair comes back and get a new one. Best of luck!

      over 7 years ago
    • barbaraanne's Avatar

      I would wear a wig that looks like my own hair, they won't even know...don't stress over it.

      almost 7 years ago

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