• Has anyone ever welcomed you to the cancer club, or said something like, "welcome to the club", I had cancer too?

    Asked by HotRodTodd on Thursday, September 24, 2015

    Has anyone ever welcomed you to the cancer club, or said something like, "welcome to the club", I had cancer too?

    At first I was a little put off, but now that I thought about it I guess it's better than one of the alternatives and that would be being a member of the "dead club". I think it's all in the way you look at it.

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    • reschnur's Avatar
      reschnur

      It's what my dad used to call a backhanded compliment. In this case not so much the compliment, but the backhanded part.

      I take it as an attempt to be sympathetic.

      over 4 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Nobody says anything. but here we have what I call the Cancer Clique. It is just that at any gathering all of the cancer survivors seem to gravitate to each other. We all gather round and upstage each other. I have a non-cancer friend who always makes a point of introducing all her new acquaintances who have cancer to me.

      over 4 years ago
    • Rolltidelynne's Avatar
      Rolltidelynne

      My answer would completely mimic livewithcancer's comment. I've said the same phrase a couple of times. My experience w the two people I said it to were one of like a wink n a nod to each other:) they knew instantly that I understood and I would be there for them! I wouldn't be offended if someone said it to me :) That's one of the reasons I come here - we ALL understand n are there for each other:)) Not. Club I want a lot of people to join...but I love the members of my club here:)) YALL lift me up, help me, n laugh w me!!

      over 4 years ago

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