• Has anyone gone to "look good, feel better"?

    Asked by Ydnar2xer on Monday, October 1, 2012

    Has anyone gone to "look good, feel better"?

    I went, and had a few concerns about it. My beautician made me up to look like The Joker. Also, she harped on and on about natural foods--AND that there's a "CURE" for cancer (pssst: it's a conspiracy because "they" won't tell anyone what the cure is!) I can wash off the extra make up, no big deal. And I DO appreciate the make up kit, provided for free. But I wonder if a beautician should be spouting off on her theory of natural foods and the cancer cure conspiracy! She said she's volunteered for LGFB for TEN YEARS! Any thoughts on this, anyone?

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    • StrongSteph's Avatar

      OMG...people always have their 2 cents about cancer! During my treatment I was sipping on a sprite because I felt like having something taste sweet to replace the sour taste in my mouth, which I hardly ever drink soda...and this stranger lectured me on drinking soda! SO, I definitely got sick of the unwanted comments about cancer.

      I definitely feel better than when I was coming right out of treatment. LAst year I felt like XXX!! One day, I woke up and felt more like a person who "had" cancer, not someone going through it. It is hard with the need for frequent checkups, but it happens.

      over 8 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar

      First let say that the beautician needs to watch her p's & q's and not offer unsolicited advice on your cancer. I am so sorry you had to experience that while trying to enjoy a program (that clearly wasn't what you expected.) Secondly, as the spouse of the cancer patient i can't stand it, and can't even articulate how maddening it is when people ask me if we've tried "blah, blah, blah", usually something to do with diet and exercise. I want to scream at them.

      Believe me when I say my husband, after 5 hits in the 5% category, is open to trying anything that might work, but he's also a rocket scientist and it takes more than a rocket scientist to come up with a treatment that will work on the current cancers, as well as prevent anymore cancers. Ever. Eating all organic natural foods isn't going to do anything for him without all the chemo drugs too.

      Again, I am sorry you had to go through that.

      over 8 years ago
    • teddyfuzz's Avatar

      Well didn't you know that soda contains sugar and that cancer feeds on sugar?? Really? Cancer feeds on sugar? So does everything else in the body! I once had someone tell me that I probably caused the cancer myself by eating too much sugar! Oh that TOTALLY makes me feel better because I was wondering what could have caused it. What a freaking genius. When I started chemo, I had someone else send me a book that talked about how certain foods could kill the cancer cells better than chemotherapy and how other foods cause cancer. Dang, I had no idea that by not eating a raw onion every day I was causing my own cancer. And if I started eating broccoli and asparagus, I could stop chemo. I'm sure these people meant well but geez...

      over 8 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Thank you for sharing this experience. This is a matter of proper training for people that are volunteering for the American Cancer Society. Sometimes they go off on their own agenda.

      I have been offered all sorts of pixie dust and miracle cures too. I usually just smile and say, "Ok thanks, I'll take a look at it"

      over 8 years ago
    • ruthieq's Avatar

      I would let the center know that is putting this on. Many patients feel like they shouldn't complain because its free and all volunteer... but you don't need to be accosted by someone who doesn't make you look better or feel good about what you're going through. Of course what she says is well meaning but untrue and many naive folks may believe her to their peril. Tell the center that puts this on.

      over 8 years ago
    • SandiD's Avatar

      I went and had a wonderful experience! But I agree with Ruthieq. Find out who you report this person too. This person meant well, but needs proper training to continue as a volunteer. This makeup session is supposed to be be positive & uplifting! I got all that unsolicited advice too. People even brought me tonics, vitamins, articles, etc. My sister-in-law even gave me a book claiming cancer patients were sick because they turned away from God & needed to repent. Really? What about children? I thanked her & threw it out. I realize their intentions were good, but I ignored all of it. I put all my trust in my medical team who are the trained experts. I learned to smile and thank people, but do what I knew I had to do. Hang in there & good luck!

      over 8 years ago
    • Snooks' Avatar

      You have hit a nerve with this one! I was so appalled that the speakers at the "look good, feel better" session all spoke Spanish and ignored us English speaking attendees. I was so angry I wrote to the sponsors of the session, but never received a reply. I'm sure these sessions are designed to make people feel good about themselves (and I'm sure some people do), but I didn't get anything useful out of it.

      over 8 years ago
    • daca1964's Avatar

      Yes it was good but not for me. If your into make up it's great. I'm just a plain jane. Try it you might like it.

      over 8 years ago
    • Lindy's Avatar

      I agree with all of you, getting unwise unsolicited advice is aggravating, I just ignored the suggestions. I also did not like being invited to church. I found the make yourself not look so sick event well intentioned, the goodies given out were very generous of the companies. I enjoyed being with the other women, gave my goodies to a friend actively seeking male attention. I was not concerned with my appearance, did not wear make up or wigs. I do believe the volunteer needs to be reminded to not provide personal medical opinion at these events.

      over 8 years ago
    • VivianT's Avatar

      If only all volunteers listened more than they talk, the world would be a better place.

      over 8 years ago
    • Ydnar2xer's Avatar

      Thanks for the advice, thoughts everyone. I ratted her out today to the patient navigator I knew who was appalled at the beautician's advice. Why ANYONE in the world would think "they" have a cure to cancer but "are keeping it a secret so they can make more money" is beyond me...and I now have had three people insist it's true...because they read it on the internet, LOL! (Probably Wikepedia!) When it happened, I told her we were miles apart on that one & let's just agree to disagree. She DID take the hint & got back to the lesson...or was it back to those cancer causing foods?????????

      over 8 years ago
    • abrub's Avatar

      Also let the American Cancer Society know, as Look Good Feel Better is one of their programs, and the beautician represents them. They will want to pull her from the program.

      I met with 2 different LGFB beauticians; one was remarkably helpful (see my profile pic! She did my makeup) and the other didn't know how to help me when I had only a scattering of eyelashes. However, both were nice, and didn't tell me how to treat my cancer.

      over 8 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      I looked into this for you, this is the response from ACS :

      The American Cancer Society is the nation's largest voluntary health organization, one hundred years old next year, dedicated to helping people stay well, get well, find cures for and fight back against cancer. Cancer is America's number one personal health concern, and every major advance made in the fight against it bears the fingerprints of the American Cancer Society. And, as direct result of the work of the Society, more than 600,000 Americans are alive today who would not have been had it not been for the decline in cancer death rates that began in the early 1990's.

      That said, one of the guiding principles of the Look Good Feel Better program is that it is non-medical, meaning that the program in no way is to interfere with the patients’ medical treatment, make any medical or psychological claims, or replace professional medical advice in any way. We apologize if this program was delivered in a manner uncharacteristic of the standards established for the program. Please be assured that we are investigating this situation that was outlined in your note.

      Thank You for your concern.

      over 8 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      I went soon after my Dx....think I had my bilat, but don't remember if I had my first chemo...the gal didn't "make me up", but talked about make up and how to use it and had several head coverings...I wasn't too impressed but I know lots of people who are...

      over 8 years ago

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