• Has anyone said to you "well everything happens for a reason" after them being told that you have cancer?

    Asked by Boogerman on Tuesday, August 13, 2019

    Has anyone said to you "well everything happens for a reason" after them being told that you have cancer?

    More than once, as a matter of fact, several times I've heard that from people that I know. It drives me nuts! What reason would there be for me to have been diagnosed with cancer? Saying that means that I was deliberately given a cancer diagnosis and I don't believe that. Have you heard this before?

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    • Shoeless' Avatar
      Shoeless

      Nobody ever said that to me but I have said it about myself many, many times. The local doctors here didn't really seem to care about my treatment so after some research I ended up going to IUPUI which is a 3 hr. drive but worth it. My case was simple enough that I could easily have been treated locally but then I wouldn't have found IUPUI, which is the most awesome hospital imaginable. When my daughter contracted AML 9 yrs. later I immediately took her there without even checking locally. There was never a question where she would go. AML is very aggressive & deadly and she had a hard time with it. She crashed soon after entering the hospital and was in a coma for 9 days. When she crashed they worked on her for over 2 hrs. to stabilize her. If she had been around this area she would not have survived. I have had several doctors and nurses tell me they would have worked on her for 30 minutes before pronouncing time of death. So yeah, it happened for a reason ~ I had cancer so I could find IUPUI & they could save my daughter.

      12 days ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      For me, I've never cared for that statement. I am not a believer that I have been given 3 cancer diagnoses and 1 stroke and nearly 100 different procedures over 32 years of my life for any reason. A "cause" and a reason for me are two different things. But even then, I don't think you will find 2 doctors that will agree on what exactly caused my diagnosis. Unless of course, I tell them that I bought 1 16oz bottle of round up back in 1999, then it's on!

      11 days ago
    • Paperpusher's Avatar
      Paperpusher

      My husband heard this so many times that he threatened to punch the next person who said it. I know it's well meaning and I've said it to myself but it's not helpful when you're scared to death and so sick.

      7 days ago

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