• Has your Christmas list changed since diagnosis?

    Asked by Bloodproblems on Wednesday, December 18, 2019

    Has your Christmas list changed since diagnosis?

    Our kids and grandkids ask what I want for christmas. I keep telling them nothing, I just want to see them, maybe have christmas dinner and enjoy them opening presents. That would be fantastic for me. They insist on getting something, I guess they feel sorry for me and in a way think that giving me a gift will make me feel better. What they don't understand is the fact that if they just kept their money and bought something for themselves, and they are happy and well, that's my present right there. Do you have trouble getting this across to your family?

    5 Answers from the Community

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    • Kp2018's Avatar
      Kp2018

      Like you, I just don't care about "stuff" anymore. It's partly an after effect of the diagnosis, but also due to my age. I'm old enough that getting rid of excess possessions actually feels better than acquiring new ones.

      A suggestion, though. Why not ask each of the wannabe gift givers to provide you with a nice new photo of themselves (individuals and families)? You could take the photos to treatment sessions and think about what gives you the most pleasure - them.

      4 months ago
    • RockTom's Avatar
      RockTom

      That's a good idea Kp! I feel the same way, I don't care about presents but I would love to have a house full of people to chat with, visit, talk about old times and just enjoy. Those moments are priceless and you cannot buy them, they are simply given.

      4 months ago
    • Charlieb's Avatar
      Charlieb

      Being Jewish I grew up appreciating the Holiday Season more than actually celebrating Christmas. The Holiday Season started the day AFTER Thanksgiving so I was always in a festive mood through out December. Our family exchanged gifts usually sometime during Chanukah. My husband is Presbyterian (mixed marriages do work) and we have exchanged gifts on Christmas. Stores setting up Christmas displays before Halloween, commercials for "the perfect Christmas Gift before Thanksgiving and stores open with Christmas deals has put a damper on my holiday season this year. After 35 years of marriage I don't even know what I want this year. Along with me starting treatment two days ago, My diagnosis 7 years ago did not change anything, the world did. I choose to celebrate life even if I am living with cancer but the world is making that more difficult each year.

      Charles

      4 months ago
    • JaneA's Avatar
      JaneA

      It's difficult to want "things" when facing cancer treatments. Your family just wants to help. Although I'm out of treatment, I don't want stuff anymore. But I'm learning to watercolor so my husband told me to order the lightpad that I wanted and a couple of books. Not the traditional Christmas or Hanukkah present but I'm a happy gal right now.

      My other favorite thing is a fleecy top for winter weather. No one ever goes wrong giving fleece unless the person lives in Hawaii.

      4 months ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      @Kp2018, the suggestion of a family photo was spot on. My daughter gave me a locket necklace when I went through chemo. Inside the locket was a photo of my son in-law, my grandchild and my daughter. I wore that necklace to every chemo treatment and still cherish both the necklace and the thought behind it. Another suggestion might be for your family to donate to your favorite charity . My family too, insists on something wrapped to put beneath the tree so I keep it simple, this year it is a pair of slippers. I do appreciate the thoughtfulness and the loving behind the giving.

      4 months ago

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