• hate being bald ....

    Asked by klou on Sunday, December 22, 2013

    hate being bald ....

    this is much worse than I thought....worse than surgery, tissue expanders and chemo....so I bought a wig, its cute! But my poor bald head itches so much, I'm trying different shampoos, scalp treatments, lotions....as soon as I come home I yank the wig off....my problem is my significant other can't stand looking at me and wants me to wear the wig....is he being selfish? I have a hat but its too hot and makes me sweat and itch even more....oh help!

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    • ppsanta's Avatar
      ppsanta

      Try different wigs until you find one that is comfortable. I couldn't wear the scarfs or hats. My wigs were comfortable but you can't wear them 24/7. Tell him to get used to it, you have CANCER, for Heavens sake!

      over 7 years ago
    • Anamaria's Avatar
      Anamaria

      I know this post is months later. However I was compelled to write. I really don't understand your s.o. I know what others have said about getting help for him. I f he is agreeable to that than fine but as far as I am concerned he should be put out of your life. It may be hard without him but it would be harder living with someone that does no know how to be compassionate for what you are going through. If it were him you would be there helping him through every hurdle. He would probably lash out at you because he can not "fix it" meaning his cancer. You are in a battle for your life what does it matter if you wear a wig, scarf, cap or go bald. He should stand tall beside you and if necessary carry you. Sorry if I sound mean but I was my mother home caregiver for over 2 1/2 years prior to her death now I have breast cancer. I never told her anything that would hurt her and I will not have anyone in my life that would treat me badly through words or actions. It is your life and you must live it as positive as you can.

      about 7 years ago
    • Connieguth's Avatar
      Connieguth

      I am a first grade teacher and little kids say what is on their mind so I was afraid they would find me out wearing a wig so I wore scarfs. My students drew my pictures with my scarfs. Very precious! Our school had three teachers diagnosed that year and older students were trying to figure out who it was and one student finally figured out one of them was me and said "I just thought her hair was nappy!" That made me laugh so hard and made me feel good because to them I was no different and they saw me as a teacher and not sick. Wear cotton not silk. Silk slips off and cotton absorbs sweat. I got good at folding them and tying extra length in a knot at the base of my neck. You can find videos online. Scarfs match your outfits too! Get longer ones then bandana length.

      about 7 years ago

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