• Have you ever got up and left a doctor's office and started over with a new doctor because you didn't like how things were going?

    Asked by GregP_WN on Monday, May 4, 2015

    Have you ever got up and left a doctor's office and started over with a new doctor because you didn't like how things were going?

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    • cam32505's Avatar
      cam32505

      I quit a pcp years ago because he kept me waiting 3 hours every time. Then, they made me pay my copay before leaving the office, and promply sent me a bill. The first time, they took my work for it, the second time, I had to pay a fee at my bank to get a copy of the cancelled check to prove that I paid my copay. I decided the office wasn't being run properly and found another doctor.

      about 6 years ago
    • IronMom45's Avatar
      IronMom45

      I quit one of my radiologist oncologist as did not appreciate the way he spoke to me or addressed my concerns. With one of my questions he said I was not a physician so there was no need to discuss my tx with me. Omg it took all the class my mother instilled in me not to punch him. Left and cancelled all future appointments.

      about 6 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      No, but I would.

      I was referred to a place to get started on clinical trials. My tumors were growing. I felt it was imperative to get started immediately. The cancer hospital didn't seem to agree as they were not as responsive as I wanted them to be. I went to my PCP and asked her to refer me elsewhere. So, I fired a place without ever even stepping a foot inside. They tried to gain back my confidence, but lucky for me, I stuck with the second place I was referred.

      about 6 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      Y'all may have heard that I was "fired" by the office manager at my gynecologic surgical oncologist's office. So I'm on my own right now. Still have my medical oncologist, who will continue to follow me, and he has also said he will intercede if I need to go back to the gyn, since that is the only practice affiliated w/my hospital of choice.

      about 6 years ago
    • Jalemans' Avatar
      Jalemans

      I was almost in that situation when I went to see my oncologist in January it was not good. She told me it wasn't necessary to do any follow up & when I reiterated the recurrence rate & asked how I would know if cancer was back, she told me to flip a coin. I was freaked out & did an extensive search for Gyn onc that specialize in sarcomas & found I would either have to see one of her colleagues or go to Mayo. I decided to wait & see what my scan showed in February. Funny thing was when I saw her at the beginning of March, she was back to normal pretty much. The only thing I am not thrilled about is that I will see the NP going forward, but they will do the scans for 2 years. Since there is no blood tests or other way to ID this cancer I am glad for the scans.

      My clinic was always bugging me to pick a PCP. I agreed to take the one I have now & she is OK with a few exceptions. One thing that annoyed me is when I asked for a copy of my scan results & she told me I wouldn't understand them anyway. She also keeps going on & on about how I have had too many tests & scans, but she doesn't seem to see that there were reasons for them. She almost didn't order the HIDA scan for me because of her thinking I must be some kind of hypochondriac & then it turned out my gallbladder was only 3% functional! I also don't like her snotty nurse who is not helpful at all -- doctor had told me if I needed to I could call her directly, so when I got released from the ER with pancreatitis with strict instructions to see PCP within 24 hours I called. The nurse chewed me out for calling that number & made me call appt desk who couldn't schedule me for 8 days! However, I like this one better than my prior one.

      Oh, this is long! I guess it hit a nerve with me!

      about 6 years ago
    • gonewest's Avatar
      gonewest

      I changed cancer hospitals and doctor at a decision point in my care. I couldn't be happier. It was the best move I ever made.

      about 6 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Quitting my Dr.s would mean quitting my Medical Care System including insurance provider and other Dr.s. That being said I did once talk with the head of the department about switching Dr.s within the system. This was because he wasn't being very co-operative with the surgeon that I had gone out of the system to find. Also this was after my daughter had led a patients revolt over his tardiness. The head of the department offered to place me with another Dr. of discuss matters with my Dr. I decided to give my Dr. another chance. I am glad I did because he is much improved. But if things hadn't worked out you bet I would have switched.

      about 6 years ago
    • debbie3's Avatar
      debbie3

      I fired my first on oncologist - treatment was her way or the high way - best thing I ever did
      The oncologist I'm with now gave me treatment options discussed and addressed all my concerns

      about 6 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      Try and Find an Oncologist AND GP that both HAVE Cancer.....they will have a lot more empathy.

      about 6 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      Good point Barry, the REALLY know then what it's like and maybe what's best.

      about 6 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      It's like the movie Hospital with George C. Scott....he ran a cancer Hospital in a COLD WAY and then HE got cancer and had to go through what we do....He got better and changed the way the Hospital did Business. Go to an Oncologist Floor of the Local Hospital and ask some Nurses IF they know anybody like that who are still seeing Patients. A Therapist who has cancer is also a good Idea. IF I was a Doc and had Cancer I'd use that angle in my Advertising.....I can hear the Jingle NOW....lol Hey maybe I'll write one....He Greg....are you still Playing?

      about 6 years ago
    • Ejourneys' Avatar
      Ejourneys

      I haven't done it as a patient but I've done it twice as a caregiver. Left neurologist who told my partner (in effect), "Yes, you have brain damage. No, we don't need a follow-up." Neuro #2 continued tests, including LP, and sent us to a cognitive neuro for confirmation that my partner has MS that acts like traumatic brain injury. Also, prior to that diagnosis (after we spent years running around to specialists), my partner had seen a psychiatrist who prescribed the wrong meds, which resulted in falls and brain shock. I had delivered medical records two weeks in advance of our appt. I asked the psychiatrist, "Did you READ those records?" She said, "I glanced at them." We high-tailed it out of there.

      about 6 years ago
    • motraveler's Avatar
      motraveler

      I am still seriously considering it. Last month when I saw oncologist, he wrote or sent to pharmaacy 3 diffeerent antibiotics that are on my allergy list, before the pharmacist called and said yshe is allergic.

      about 6 years ago
    • tndrft001's Avatar
      tndrft001

      Yes, I have. About 15 years ago, I fired my primary care doctor while I was in the middle of filing for my social security disability claim because he decided not to back me up, after yelling at me for months because I was still working. I also overheard him talking to his MA outside my exam room about how bad he felt for me because he wasn't going to tell me what my real diagnosis was as 'women just didn't have it in their silly heads to understand such things'. That was the end of that doctor, as my families physician...for anyone in my family, including my in-laws, who had been his patients for over 30 years. I found the primary care doctor I have now and she's put together an awesome care team for me over the years. And being a cancer survivor herself, it's like we have another bond now that goes beyond just patient/doctor and feels more like friends. I wouldn't hesitate to fire another doctor, if I felt the need for it, even if it meant starting over with someone new. It is worth it to be happy and feel safe with your health care team.

      about 6 years ago
    • msesq's Avatar
      msesq

      I walked out of a neurosurgeons office during a consult because he was unbelievably arrogant, refused to consider anything short of surgery and paid more attention to the intern with him than to me. I had a long standing relationship with a dermatologist who I liked but his staff constantly overbooked. I complained to him and he suggested I book the first appointment of the day. When I walked in the door 6 other people were there. I waited 30 minutes and a drug company rep was the only one who left the exam area. I left and never went back.

      about 6 years ago
    • cjs7159's Avatar
      cjs7159

      My first oncologist had me undress from the waist up, no gown, no nurse in the room. This only occurred when my husband was unable to accompany me to my appointments. When it happened the first time, I took it as maybe him being in a hurry, but when it happened again, I never went back. Now when I see his face on the huge billboards on the highway, I cringe. No one should be treated like this, & he is surely setting himself up for a lawsuit.
      My second oncologist told me he would continue to see me until I needed treatment, because he was getting out of the practice of oncology. This would not be the time when I would want to be establishing a relationship with a new doctor, so I went to my PCP & asked him to recommend someone & have now been with my current oncologist for about 14 years.

      about 6 years ago
    • Myturn's Avatar
      Myturn

      I left a team of a surgeon, chemo doc and a radiation doc. The whole team was worthless. I believe that all they wanted was my good insurance cash. My health was not their motivation. I read that there was a surgery only alternative and they wouldn't listen. Told them that I'd rather go home and die. That triggered an automatic second opinion offer. They did the surgery over two years ago. So far, so good.

      about 6 years ago
    • laradactyl's Avatar
      laradactyl

      Never have but the time may have come. During treatment I lost about 60 pounds and the doctors were all on me to gain weight. Which happened quite automatically as soon as they pulled that infernal feeding tube out of my stomach. But the last time I saw my PCP she went into a rant, raised voice and all, about me putting on too much weight. You would think, from the way she talked that I was purposely spoiling her "record" or something.. It was like a personal a$$ chewing for not meeting her standards.

      I have received two notices from the VA that I need to call and make an appointment with my PCP but after that last visit,, I just can not bring myself to see her again. I think that even the VA has a way that I can change PCP, but I am sure it will be a long drawn out process.

      I always liked my PCP at the VA until this one event and I keep telling myself that I should go ahead and make the next appointment (now overdue) and see how it goes. If things do not improve than I could start the process of changing on my out of her office. This was the first such event in my 7 years with the VA.

      about 6 years ago
    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      I'm in a system--I think It's easier to get a different doctor now-but---If a doctor doesn't want you they should say so, and let administration know, so you can find a new one. My 2 oncologists made waves to get me out of the care of the last one. He wasn't adjusting my thyroid, so I had high blood pressure. My oncologists had me gain weight. He lied and said that I had diabetes when I didn't as a method to bully me into losing weight. My symptoms are for low sugar-not high sugar, so I carried around my lab reports and showed them to everyone. Everyone looked at my sugar stick- and said-- That's really low. That's when my oncologists stepped in.

      about 6 years ago
    • pammyjo's Avatar
      pammyjo

      Early on, when I first had symptoms, I was sent to the gynocologist who was part of my PC's group. I got the feeling that my PC wasn't thrilled with him, but I thought "how bad can be be? ". To be fair, he did everything medically correct, but he was a complete four letter word. He refused to even listen to my questions until his head was between my knees, then after I started asking my questions, he informed me that "you ask too many questions", and "with your financial status, you don't have the right to ask any questions". That was the last time that man was ever in the same room with me.
      Between the first symptoms and now (6mos ned) I had over 40 Drs lay hands on me. He was the only one who was anything less than sincere, caring and compassionate.I'm actually grateful that he was so horrible. It made it easy to leave him, and forced me to seek out the amazing Dr. that I ended up with.

      about 6 years ago
    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      Pammy-if you didn't have that experience--you might have not appreciated the kindness of the other oncologists, been more judgmental. Cancer didn't bring out the best of my personality.

      about 6 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar
      Clyde

      Yes. But it was something I had been considering for a while.

      about 6 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      The Movie I referenced about is wrong....it's THE DOCTOR with William Hurt.

      about 6 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar
      CAS1

      Oh yes,,I walked out of the North Western when they told me to get my affairs in order.

      And prior to that 3 other times when I didn't like the wait or the front desk people.

      about 6 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      We have never got up and walked out, allthough I have asked "who should I send the bill to"? They say, what bill, and I say the bill for my time that has been wasted sitting here. I'm a busy person! Of course they just chuckle. I did drop a primary care doctor after they missed my diagnosis the last time, after he insisted we have a cat scan instead of going ahead and doing a needle biopsy on the tumor in my neck. He said the cat scan would tell him everything he needed. Well, the radiologist's report came back negative on the lymph nodes. "non impressive" was the term. Then the needle biopsy showed it was SCC. The scan cost me about 3K that shouldn't have been done in the first place.

      about 6 years ago
    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      I'm with you Greg. I don't have the money to pay the bill for walking out of the waiting or exam room. My senior care plan allows me 3 'no shows', and then I'm out. I just have to stick it out, but that doesn't stop me from trying to get another doctor.

      about 6 years ago
    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      I want to add that my PCP co-pay is $5.00, the full price is $200. One oncologist has a $50.00 co-pay, but the full price is $2,975.00. Sometimes there's an accident in main bookkeeping, and I get the bill. I visited my PCP before I went to Japan, and got a letter listing my meds for Japanese La migra, and US when I returned. For some reason, because a letter was involved, somebody decided that it wasn't covered. I called billing and pointed out that I am a 73 year old with cancer. What gets me is that they don't even list what the bill is for. I call them and ask them 'You could at least tell me what the bill is for and with whom?"

      about 6 years ago
    • ld_105's Avatar
      ld_105

      After getting no instructions before a biopsy and then waiting after the biopsy for the doctor to speak to me...I never saw her. I was told to go home and wait? Can't remember, but I stomped out of there with a bleeding incision. A few weeks later I received a letter that told me to call my PCP to get the results. My PCP was floored, as was I. Some doctors are in the wrong profession. Needless to say I switched hospitals and found a modern center with an efficient staff. I feel sorry for the teaching fellow who was told to hold me down on the table. What a nightmare.

      about 6 years ago
    • tndrft001's Avatar
      tndrft001

      Greg, you asking the question about 'who you should bill' reminds of when I sent my prior PCP a bill for making me wait 2 hours after my appointment time for him to bother to come into the exam room to see me. He never did pay it, but he was never late again. I also did that to a pediatrician once. But it wasn't actually his fault, it was his MA's. She put my daughter and myself in the exam room, put the chart on the counter, then promptly forgot about us and the doctor went home! I finally got to wondering what was going on and opened the door to ask how much longer it was going to be. She actually called the doctor and had him come back to the office to see us, which I was glad she did since my daughter wasn't feeling well and ended up having her tonsils out 3 days later. But I did send a bill to the office and they put a credit on our account because of her mistake.

      about 6 years ago
    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      tndrft-- i love you

      about 6 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      I went to a Doc for a problem once and he OF COURSE ran tests and a Scan and when I came back to see if I had something wrong he said Mr. Adams you had nothing but a little gas.....I said HE DOC I'm Mr. Butler and I KNOW I have gas and so do you. He was so embarrassed and got MY chart and I was OK.....just some BS that I already knew....SO that is why I wrote the song AFRAID TO GO TO THE DOCTOR....lol......

      about 6 years ago
    • oldlinedog's Avatar
      oldlinedog

      Hello Greg ... I did that to the head of the stem cell dept at the facility that performed my transplant ... She then got vindictive and attempted to block my appointments with other stem cell doctors that were here underlings but had much better listening skills then her ... I was only able to see another doctor after I threatened to email everyone in the facility from the CEO to the heads of all departments within the facility .... Best thing I ever did as I now feel much better .... Month after month of the same stupid questions ... Without ever listening to my answers .... Patients rights my friend ..

      about 6 years ago
    • geekling's Avatar
      geekling

      Yes. So many times I've actually lost count .. are we counting dentists too?

      I've been fired as a patient and I've quit as a patient. These things usually go together. What is the point of seeing a doctor who can't help?

      I've fought moron bills too. Someone who does not believe your symptoms, is unable to diagnose you, and doesn't wish to listen doesn't deserve to be paid.

      I like the gyno story. I saw a procto like that. I went in for a consultation in that I had questions. They wanted me to undress. I refused saying I simply had questions and wanted to consult with the doctor. When the doctor came into the room he began to play with his computer. I remained quiet. Finally he looked up and told me I could undress. I explained I simply had some questions and saw no need to undress to get answers. The dude actually stood up and said he couldn't answer any questions until I disrobed. I disembarked from the office instead.

      I have LOTS of stories like that. Too many doctors were in the bottom half of their class.

      about 6 years ago
    • DeniseD's Avatar
      DeniseD

      Yes I did change and am happy to be with a wonderful doctor with the best staff I have ever encountered. My first cancer doctor never answered my questions to my satisfaction, but the last straw was when my husband asked him a question and he just turned and walked out of the room. I know he heard him and since I hadn't worked in several years, he was the one paying the bill. I walked up to the desk to pay my bill, and the receptionist said, "we will see you again in three months." My reply, "no you won't, I would rather die than come back here." I got busy looking for a competent doctor who would listen to my concerns and answer my questions. It's my life and my choice.

      about 6 years ago
    • Lauraandmary's Avatar
      Lauraandmary

      Didn't exactly get up and walk out, but did change primary care doc following the missed diagnosis; we also changed oncologists based on BAD BEHAVIOR! Some of the things doctors do are amazingly horrifying, wish we had all hospitalizations and clinic visits on video as the behavior was so often beyond belief!

      about 6 years ago
    • junebugg1961's Avatar
      junebugg1961

      Yes due to didn't have a clue what to do with me. Everytime I went in there was a new nurse and other staff. The office staff didn't know what the other staff was doing do to lack of communication.!!!

      almost 5 years ago

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