• Have you made any new friends since your cancer diagnosis?

    Asked by Nancebeth on Monday, October 29, 2012

    Have you made any new friends since your cancer diagnosis?

    I was asked to be part of the B-Pink Project here in my home town. It is a coffee table book put together by a photographer whose wife was diagnosed with breast cancer last year. It features over 60 women in varying stages of treatment for breast cancer, professionally photographed. Each woman got to tell her story and parts of each story are featured along with the photos. The book was launched on October 6.
    The goal is to get the books in the waiting rooms of the local cancer centers so newly diagnosed women have something inspirational to see and know they are not alone. I made new friends through this project, friends I would not have met had I not been diagnosed with breast cancer.
    What about you? Have you made new friends because of your diagnosis?

    12 Answers from the Community

    12 answers
    • teddyfuzz's Avatar

      Yes. I had someone that lives close by reach out to me on WhatNext before I started chemo. She had a similar diagnosis and was ahead of me in treatment. She has been very supportive and it's nice to have someone who has been through the same thing to talk to. I feel like we have a "bond" that I don't have with many other people.

      over 8 years ago
    • joyboo's Avatar

      I was amazed by aquaintances that have become my support systems. Some have been through cancer and some have just offered support and allow me to vent.

      over 8 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      YEs...I've made several good friends, originally cyber friends who we have now met in person.....I've met friends in the states, Canada, Australia and Israel.....

      over 8 years ago
    • cancervivor's Avatar

      Made some new ones, but was surprised to find out how many I already had. People offered to do things for us, we got cards and calls from folks we haven't heard from in years, but they were keeping up with us. Also made new friends with other people going through treatment. Once you find someone who is also fighting the battle you tend to support each other.

      over 8 years ago
    • princess123's Avatar

      I haven't made new friends because I live in a city where I don't know many people. I did find people I knew when I went to school and my friends and family from my home city that have reached out to support me and offer up prayers for me. I didn't know my old friends cared so much until this happened and I'm so glad to have them.

      over 8 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      I felt so alone until I realized how many people were on the same journey as me. There is a mutual understanding and a special bond amongst all of us fighting this battle. I have made a couple of friends but I would love some kind of regular contact -- it is great for the positive attitude.

      over 8 years ago
    • packerbacker's Avatar

      I haven't made new friends, but I've rekindled old friendships. I reached-out to someone that I was very close to in grade and high school and for a time after, then we lost touch. Since I've reached out to her, she has gone through her own cancer scare and is doing well now, and she didn't have to go through it alone. She has taken me to treatments, which only increased our closeness. Now, we talk and get together and I've since gotten closer to some of my other friends from years ago. I don't have many friends, and I am very grateful to have them back in my life. It's been a special time with my friends and we share our life experiences and grow because of that.

      over 8 years ago
    • Tania's Avatar

      Hi Nancebeth:
      I am a breast cancer survior of 3 years and I have made wounderful friends. I knit slippers and hats for cancer patients for Knit Love Into It and non profit organization. I also take part in the American Cancer Society and have met great people there too. It is great to stay active and keep going. I have been very lucky my co-workers are great and family and friends.
      Hugs, Tania, from Miami, Florida.

      over 8 years ago
    • IKickedIt's Avatar

      I think what has been most amazing is not the new friends I have made, but the acquaintances who stepped up beyond my wildest dreams and who are now treasured friends. There were parents of my students who I never exchanged more than a few friendly words with who were now cooking me meals, insisting on taking me to treatments or doctors' appointments. People from my community who were suddenly calling me often, bringing me things from the store. I never ever dreamed I'd have so many people coming forward to help me.

      I have said that this should be a case study...the way people react. What we never know is the baggage that people carry, so we don't know when we're going to strike a chord with someone. I am now a better person and I plan to spend the rest of my life giving back to my community and friends, and being an inspiration to others to do the same. I have learned that something as simple as sending a card can really make a difference, picking up someone's spirits with such a small gesture. I'm so angry at myself for not doing things in the past for friends, just because I didn't know how to or exactly what to do.

      So yes, I have met new people who I can talk with because we have shared the same journey, but more importantly, because of my experience, I am now a better friend, better mother, better wife, better daughter, better colleague and just simply a better person. And if we can all, one by one, take this message out into the world, we can make this world a more caring community.

      over 8 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar

      Yes and no. I have made a lot of new friends since by husbands diagnosis with colon cancer, but a lot of that has to do with our moving in order to be closer to his doctors, hospital, work, and in a house that was smaller and not so much work to maintain. I have met several people on this board that have offered so much and so wish I had found this place 8 years ago to have people to ask questions of. People who know and understand what it means to be the patient and the caregiver. I love being my husbands caregiver, but it is not always easy and I don't always find a lot of happy time in it, but I want to be here and I am with him every step of this journey. I have also made an effort to get back into doing my hobbies of piano lessons and costuming and metting people through this has been so supportive of me and my husband. having a supportive group of friends is vital to my sanity in all of this.

      over 8 years ago
    • Lirasgirl33's Avatar

      No, but I would like to. :)

      over 8 years ago
    • Snooks' Avatar

      The people I have met since getting my diagnosis 6 years ago will stay with me for the rest of my life. You don't know how many people have been stricken with this disease until you have it and the number of people who stepped forward to help me with food, comfort, wigs, and just their knowledge was outstanding. Since then, I have tried to "be there" for any of my friends who have also been diagnosed with B.C. It made me a more compassionate person which helped when my husband was stricken with cancer.

      over 8 years ago

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