• Helping loved one recover from recovery?

    Asked by Psalm18_2 on Friday, January 20, 2012

    Helping loved one recover from recovery?

    How do we help a loved on recover from recovery? Treatments have been done for over a month for brain tumors after surgery. My loved one gained a ton of weight due to prednisone and poor food choices. Now she's tired and her legs hurt too much to leave the house. I feel she could benefit from PT to get those muscles working again. How do we encourage her to seek help and move more? She fought so hard to live and we want her to be healthy. Thanks!

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    • nancyjac's Avatar

      It may be too soon. One month after treatment is not very long. Depending on the treatment she had, it may take her many months or even years to recover from some of the side effects. A lot of reading I have done strongly indicates that friends and loved ones often tend to assume that once treatment is finished that the person should be back to their normal pre-cancer self and that almost never is the case. Surviving cancer changes you forever and each survivor has to find their own NEW "normal. Having said all that, by all means, continue to support your loved one in every way that you can, but most likely, one of the most important things for her right now is being able to call her own shots and do things on her own terms. Cancer often makes people feel out of control and helpless about a lot of things, so it is vitual to let them make their own choices. It certainly wouldn't hurt at this point to look into PT, talk to a couple of therapists experienced with cancer recovery issues, but PT can be a rough road that takes a lot of time and patience and she may just not be ready to deal with that yet.

      almost 5 years ago

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