• Here is one I haven't seen yet. Sex and cancer help! Last thing on my mind but not hubby help I can't relax to save my

    Asked by susie81610 on Thursday, December 22, 2011

    Here is one I haven't seen yet. Sex and cancer help! Last thing on my mind but not hubby help I can't relax to save my

    life as it is. Always have to keep busy so mind doesn't think about cancer. Body hurts just had chemo went through change of life young. Don't want to be touched just want to be left alone. I know it sounds sad and I feel sorry for hubby but what to do. Too much stress!!!!

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    • susie81610's Avatar

      So are you guys and gals telling me I'm the only one with this issue? Wow seems strange. lol

      almost 5 years ago
    • abrub's Avatar

      No. You're not alone. I worked with my oncs and gyn on this one, and am on Vagifem daily (normal dosage is twice/week) and that helps me somewhat. Of course, it depends on your cancer type as to whether or not you can use hormonal supplements. We also tried me on an estratest - an estrogen/testosterone supplement, but while that helps many, it didn't help me. My desire is still quite low. However, while I usually want to be left alone, I do it for my husband, and usually end up enjoying it, too.

      Other suggestions: acupuncture, integrative medicine. And plenty of lubricants.

      almost 5 years ago
    • RuthAnne's Avatar

      I am lucky to have a very understanding husband. I am rarely in the mood for sex anymore. When I'm feeling okay physically, I feel like I look like a complete toad. We don't have sex as much as we used to, but I find that even if I'm not in the mood and we have sex, I end up being glad that we did because it is very satisfying and a great stress reliever. Plus, it helps me feel normal. Be patient with yourself. Good luck.

      almost 5 years ago
    • danellsar's Avatar

      Husband has had zero interest since the day of his diagnosis. I have zero energy but also grieve this loss in our life together.

      almost 5 years ago
    • krbrowndog's Avatar
      krbrowndog (Best Answer!)

      It sounds like to me that your husband would benefit from some counseling to learn how to not be a A-Hole.

      almost 5 years ago
    • susie81610's Avatar

      Lol Thanks Krbrowndog thats my thoughts at times also. I would just be happy laying and holding but wont do that because I know what mental XXX I will pay. Marriage wasn't wonderful before cancer and after 25yrs even though I'm young I just want to be held. I know its not really funny but thanks for the laugh I tell my therapist that all the time he needs help and she agrees but you can't make someone go to counseling. :)
      Hope you have a great day!
      Thanks Susie

      almost 5 years ago

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