• How did you distract yourself? Trying to be positive --- biopsy today + pre-surgical work-up.

    Asked by HearMeRoar on Wednesday, February 6, 2013

    How did you distract yourself? Trying to be positive --- biopsy today + pre-surgical work-up.

    Ladies!! UGH!! Here we go... fine needle lymph node biopsy then surgical work up. I cry every time I walk in that building. I do TOTALLY FINE in between and since being diagnosed almost 4 weeks ago I have only had about 48 hours of "bad" time. I'm just enjoying my new job, my family and being me. I hope I don't keep crying every time I have to go there... that's gonna be a lot of crying. Need some distraction!! What did you do to distract yourself? I pray --- but that gets me emotional too!

    22 Answers from the Community

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    • Mel's Avatar

      Good Luck today!! be thinking of you... I hope you don't cry everytime you go there either :( It will get better. I am not sure on the distraction thing sorry. I would get so nervous out of my mind but sort of like a job I went I did it (maybe not so well on these visits) lol... but you know what I mean. B R E A T H E!!!... :)
      Hugs and love!.

      over 3 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Good Morning, I didn't have breast cancer, or that type of procedure, but I have had just about every other procedure you can think of done. I was good through most of them, but when I started feeling overwhelmed I would just try to pump myself up by telling myself that I can take ANYTHING for however many minutes it's going to take to get it done, so Let's Go! Get it done and let me get out of here. I found that if I broke everything down to segments it was easier to get through. If a procedure was to take 30 minutes I broke it into 3 10 minute segments. It seemed to pass by quicker, it just helps me.

      You will get better as time helps you, it's hard but you can do it.

      over 3 years ago
    • Julie99's Avatar

      I have a relaxing app on my phone which helped and I brought someone with me who knows how to distract me and help me get through it all and take my mind off of all of it. Talk about anything else... even the weather! Joke around, and try to laugh. Find the humor in the small things. My boyfriend and I joked about the new and hopefully bigger chest I'll end up with. (he wanted DD's. I was originally a B! We had fun laughing about that!) And all the positives. I'll never had a saggy chest. I won't need a bra to stay perky. I had a bilateraly mastectomy... I'll never need another mammogram again!

      over 3 years ago
    • Debbie's Avatar

      Look at what you've been through the past month. It's a life changing situation. Like Greg said, take it one day or minute or hour or procedure at a time. You can do ANYTHING one step at a time. That's how I made it through and so will you :) .

      over 3 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      Chemo brain provides more distraction than I want. Maybe your situation is like that first day or first week of school as a child. Separation anxiety, fear of the unknown, etc. But then after a few visits to school, it become your home away from home. Your oncologist's office will become the same way.

      over 3 years ago
    • Nancebeth's Avatar

      I read books on my kindle and played games on my phone. I usually tried to bring someone with me to appts and such and we would chat or watch movies on my tablet.

      over 3 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      I'm not a lady, but I'm in touch with my feminine side. The only thing I like about my center is that they have a picture puzzle on a table in the waiting area. I love picture puzzles, never have time to do them at home and actually look forward to the chance to work on whatever they have out. I see women doing needle work, cross word puzzles, knitting, reading is so obvious and lots of people who have brought paperwork from the office with them. One guy is playing a game on his tablet. And that's just the waiting room. Not dwelling on why you are there will also make it easier to be fresh and alert at your appointments. Its worth exploring various possibilities.

      Mel has a great idea which I also do. I treat my cancer like a business situation. Always looking to solve the issue which helps me keep it at a distance and be objective about it. On those times when I don't or can't have something physical in front of me, I day dream. I've gotten really good at exploring my fantasy life (put myself into the film "Prometheus" last time.). Its a mind over matter situation.

      over 3 years ago
    • Netsy's Avatar

      I started to listen only to KLOVE radio station for inspiration! I also had a son that was in a major soccer accident the day after I was diagnosed and a husband in the hospital with a bladder infection and pneumonia related to a scope he had to " check his bladder for regrowth cancer". I had to give this up to God, which if you knew me was a big leap of faith! What I figured out is God doesn't need my help micromanaging. Even the small stuff was taken care of! You have no control of the diagnosis! Walk in faith not fear, it's in powering! Reach out to wise people in your life. Reading "Praying through cancer" by Susan Sorensen & Laura Geist. ( a fellow survivor gave to me) I sincerely hope you are not on this journey with us breast cancer warriors but if you are this is a strong sisterhood! You will be embraced by us all. God bless you and please keep us updated.

      over 3 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      Keeping as normal a routine as possible...I worked through Dx and Tx...it helped me keep normalcy in my life and I didn't feel like a victim when I was at work.

      over 3 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      My "Dark Time" (the time between diagnosis & surgery) was in November (2011) -- I tried to distract myself by watching those Hallmark Christmas Movies -- and there was certainly enough of them to fill most of my days. Also, I played checkers online. I spent time with family -- and kept that smile pasted on!!! However, there were a lot of tears & butterflies in my tummy - and a lot of praying. When I would experience a sense of peace amidst my turmoil, I figured that someone had just said a prayer for me. The hardest office visit for me was my 3 month follow-up appointment with my Oncologist at the Cancer Center -- having to walk back in there made it all a reality again -- and it showed in my sky high blood pressure. The 6 & 9 month appointments were better. Success stories stories would take away the butterflies, give me strength and would support the positive attitude that is so necessary for this battle. I wish you the best!

      over 3 years ago
    • CountryGirl's Avatar

      I didn't go alone. I took my funny friend, Jenn; my husband; my crazy sister, whose behavior was so distracting I didn't have time to think about my circumstances. I did not take my mother, who would have rubbed my back and encouraged me to "let it out." She wonderful, but wasn't what I needed right then. My fingers are crossed for you.

      over 3 years ago
    • CountryGirl's Avatar

      I took someone with me. I took my funny friend, Jenn; my husband who spent the time talking about diodes, resisters, and a thousand other component parts; my distracting sister who talks to strangers. I did not take my mom, who would have rubbed my back and let me cry.

      over 3 years ago
    • Benge's Avatar

      I'm so sorry you have to go through all this as well!! I just take it one day at a time! A good cry is not a bad thing, those emotions have to come out! I'm with Julie on joking about the perky boobs and no more mammograms. I'm not the kind of person who asks for help, but I'm amazed how many people have came up to me and got me through this. Don't hesitate asking somebody to go with you on your appointments. I prayed a lot too! This quote gets me through all the difficult times in my life: Every experience God gives us, every person He puts in our lives is the perfect preparation for the future that only He can see!! I sent a prayer for you for strength and healing!! Take care!!

      over 3 years ago
    • savingrace's Avatar

      I truly know the feeling. Everytime I would turn on the street heading to the office I would get a sick feeling, whether I was going for treatments, dr visits or just blood work. Over time it got better but when it was ALL over, whew, what a relief. If you can, take someone with you that can keep your spirits uplifted and stay positive. It won't be going on forever. Also stay in prayer asking God to give you peace. Focus on Phillippians 4:7. It really helps.

      over 3 years ago
    • Beannie's Avatar

      I took it one procedure at a time - cried some, held myself together sometimes not knowing how, had friends and family who went with me to be there and keep me occupied, tried to keep laughter going and watch and read funny things. But sometimes crying has to be done. I don't think I have let myself cry too much - not sure if that is good or bad but it is how I deal with everything. I keep thinking each procedure, each treatment, is one more step towards rocovery and that keeps me moving forward.

      over 3 years ago
    • SusanK's Avatar

      Your tears are coming from your fears more than anything. It's not a pity party thing you are experiencing. Putting yourself in God's hands is the right thing to do. Do you listen to Christian music? Shannon Wexelberg's "I Have a Song" CD got me through the darkest of days. I also tried to focus on the good things--the medical team, the hospital were all top notch; friends and family were so wonderful, so thoughtful. I had much to be thankful for. I cried a lot, too, but not out of fear. When people did nice things for me, I cried; cards came in the mail from people I hadn't seen in 40 years. How can you not cry about that kind of thing? But I never cried at the hospital or chemo clinic because that was where I was going to be put back together and made well--I told myself that every time I opened those doors. Don't hold the tears in and don't be embarrassed by them. Once you really get your plan of action in place, you will summon that inner strength and get on with your job of beating your cancer. Try to stay strong! With God's help, you can do it!

      over 3 years ago
    • Baldredhead's Avatar

      Hey, Hear -
      You are absolutely going to do this well! I find myself getting through tests and treatments by focusing on the kindness of the people there - Have had that all but one time, and also thinking in my head about the time I will be spending on this particular treatment as such a small percentage of my life - I think things like "in 2 hours, I will be walking out of this place and getting on with my life!"
      My pattern seemed to be hearing bad news, going numb, falling apart when I emotionally dealt with it later, and then thinking about the future, and what I needed to get through to get me back to a healthy place where I can be all the fabulous things God made me to be!

      over 3 years ago
    • Xmom7's Avatar

      I know exactly how you feel. I woke up during the night for 10 days and cried myself back to sleep with prayer. Then I found the right doctor, and she gave me hope. I didn't cry in the night anymore. It's just so emotional, dealing with all of it. Deep breathing does help, and just trying to have positive thoughts.

      over 3 years ago
    • Bug's Avatar

      Interesting how so much of what folks say resonates… JennyMiller mentioned the Hallmark movies. Oh my gosh, I watched so many Hallmark movies! (She also mentioned that when she experienced a sense of peace amidst the turmoil she figured someone had just said a prayer for her. I felt the same way. I believe it!) GregP_WN mentioned breaking things down in segments. I did that, too. Get to the appointment – okay, did that. Checked in at the front desk – done. Changed clothes – done. Test – done. Now changing and going home! Baldredhead said, “"in 2 hours, I will be walking out of this place and getting on with my life!" Yes, yes! Find something to look forward to after the appointment or treatment – family, work, your pet, your favorite sandwich for lunch - whatever. Personally, for me the worst part is the “anticipatory anxiety” – the time leading up to the event where I’m imagining it (and sometimes imagining the worst). I try to catch myself doing that and remind myself that the actual experience is almost never as bad. Breathe – deeply and often. Good luck to you, HearMeRoar!

      over 3 years ago
    • Viking's Avatar

      Good luck and please understand that the place you are crying about isn't a bad place. It is a place filled with highly educated caring professionals that are there to save your life and cheer you on! I understand your feelings totally because yesterday I completed 15 months of Inflammatory Breast Cancer treatment and I was in a frozen state in the beginning also. I did become stronger than I ever thought I could be. Let the place you are afraid of become your best friend as I did. Embrace the care and tell them about your feelings. They can help you through your fears.

      over 3 years ago
    • MarnieC's Avatar

      I learned meditation - I found it extremely beneficial, and in fact am now teaching it to others. It helps with the anxiety, the fear, the constant mind chatter and "what if's". If you would like to know more about it, just let me know!

      over 3 years ago
    • debco148's Avatar

      I happened to be watching a video from Tony Robbins right around when this all happened to me last year. He was talking about overcoming fear (don't think breast cancer was on his mind though), but fear is fear. He was explaining ..you can't fight it, you can't run away from it.. so you just have to acknowledge it... and learn to dance with it. I took this literally and started going to Zumba classes at the gym.. one day I remember being so wound up, I actually did it twice once in the morning and later again that day. I kept saying, I'm going to dance with this...over and over... and somehow it helped! Also, left me with a great exercise that I love so much now. A year later... I got through it all and my first 3 month check up was good.. so one day at a time!

      over 3 years ago

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