• How do I deal with an ll yo son with ADHD who is not controlling himself?

    Asked by Cheryl2 on Monday, August 6, 2012

    How do I deal with an ll yo son with ADHD who is not controlling himself?

    We were doing ok on 5mg medication, 2 times daily. Today we had to double it (his doctor approves). He still wants "hand holding" and asks for help on lessons I know he can do. Just doesn't seem able to concentrate. We really need to finish 5 more lessons to the next test before my surgery and I'm afraid his concentration is going to get worse and worse.

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    • KendallHHC's Avatar
      KendallHHC

      Have you tried looking at his diet? I would highly recommend that if you haven't already. I know many parents who have made changes in their children's diets and ADHD lessened or virtually disappeared and quickly! It can be a direct cause, espeically if there is a lot of processed foods with dyes and/or sugar in them. If his doctor isn't on board with that, you might want to look around for one who is, or you could try finding a health coach who specializes in children and/or ADHD.

      about 5 years ago
    • Cheryl2's Avatar
      Cheryl2

      Kendal, Thanks for the reply. We use no processed foods, little sugar, no sodas, nothing with coloring. He still needs the medication. He's been doing well until my diagnosis.

      about 5 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar
      nancyjac

      I think it would be difficult for most 11 year olds, with or without ADHD to concentrate when his mother has cancer and will be going into the hospital for surgery. Why the stringent time line (i.e 5 more lessons, and test, before surgery. I think you may be putting too much pressure on him and yourself . It is a tough situation for both of you and some therapy/family counseling might be more needed than lessons and tests right now.

      about 5 years ago
    • KendallHHC's Avatar
      KendallHHC

      That's great Cheryl! I agree with nancyjac - it's a tough time for him too. Some family time and/or family counseling might be very helpful. With what's going on with you, maybe he just wants/needs some more attention and "hand holding" than usual. I'm sure it's a stressful time for your family, so it must be difficult.

      about 5 years ago
    • Cheryl2's Avatar
      Cheryl2

      I'm working on more attention. He is making the pancakes this morning. Would have been easier if the griddle hadn't given up the ghost!

      about 5 years ago
    • hgbkokopelli's Avatar
      hgbkokopelli

      Cheryl2,
      It appears to me from what you have written that your son is scared to death to lose his mommy. He feels like if he makes it so he has to depend on you then maybe he won't lose you. The meds were working and now they are not and there has been multiple big changes in his home life. Kids pick up on what they see mom and dad mirror, but also on nonverbals as well if there has not been talk. He may need some extra meds going through this but he also needs to see he is not gonna loose his mommy. If you are home schooling him then as the teacher you need to know yes his concentration will get worse due to home stress, and he may even bottom out and not have any... This is ok. And it is ok for you too. The lessons can come after your surgery and you are better too. He just is acting out telling you the only he can that he doesn't want to loose you.

      about 5 years ago
    • Cheryl2's Avatar
      Cheryl2

      hgbkokopelli ,
      Thanks for your response. We have told him everything that is going on and that I probably will not have to have further treatment after the surgery. I'm sure he is picking up anxiety from me as I have plenty to share! I also think, though, that we need to keep our days as "normal" as possible. Schoolwork gives him something to concentrate on (when he can) instead of just worrying. I'm also going to be giving him more home tasks to do so he knows that he is helping and will be able to when I'm not able to.

      about 5 years ago

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