She is in shock..Give her some time. I read an article that says people over the age of 50 don't want chemo because they remember the horror stories of how Chemo used to be many years ago.if she could see the people taking chemo who still have their own hair and are doing well this might change her mind..See if a social worker from the hospital could talk to her. Take her to see the chemo ward and just take a look. Its a place of hope not death. Remind her that small babies and young children take chemo..That always does it for me.. When ever I feel sorry for myself I think of the little 11 year old boy who was there taking chemo with me..
There by the grace of God go I.
I have a girl friend stage IV LC who has been on tarceva for 5 years. Works out everyday and is a full time nurse and a beautiful Blond..
Give her time to process this huge trauma.