• How do I prepare for death?

    Asked by Lexi21 on Tuesday, June 12, 2012

    How do I prepare for death?

    How do you prepare for death? Just recently I was finishing up my last chemo for a sarcoma that was found in my neck. The good news...the sarcoma is gone. The bad news... 7 new tumors have aggressively grown on my lungs. The doctors I have been working with gave me three months at the most with whatever treatment I choose. I'm still going to seek a second opinion but worst case scenario how do I prepare for death?

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    • nancyjac's Avatar

      Hi Lexi,

      I am responding to your question, not because I can answer it, but because I don't want you to think we don't care by not responding. Your's is a question most of us have to answer for ourselves at some point. And there are as many answers as there are people and all of those answers are right.

      Those of us here are obviously still alive and those who have a similar prognosis to yours are probably busy with their own preparations. There are a few folks here who were caregivers for loved ones who have died from cancer and they might be able to respond with the end of life experiences they went through.

      Wishing you and yours all the best in the coming months.

      over 4 years ago
    • RuthAnne's Avatar

      Hi Lexi,

      I read a lot. Mostly books and blogs written by people who were dying of cancer. They can give a very frank look at what it is to go through the dying experience. They are not always easy to read, but actually offer some very helpful insight.

      I hope that this doesn't seem too clinical. I'm am sorry to hear that things are going poorly. I wish you strength and grace to endure whatever comes next.

      over 4 years ago
    • Bellamore's Avatar

      A must read: "Death: The Final Stage of Growth" by Elisabeth Kulber-Ross. Check her out on the web, she's done quite a few books on the topic.

      I just order this one today.

      God Bless

      over 4 years ago
    • hgbkokopelli's Avatar

      Talk to God everyday and thank him for the quality time you have left. While able take one last vacation you can with whoever is most important. Remember your senses are most sensative as you prepare this process. Get signed up with a hospice of your area to stay at home if this is your wish. Be sure you are kept comfortable for each and every day and hour, you have. Make sure you have a will and that it is the way you want things done or ask for the last 5 wishes from your hospice that acts as your last will and testament and will hold up in court. I am a RNC of 40+ years and worked Hospice for 3 years. Eat what sounds good if only one bite, drink what sounds good if only 1 sip, Follow the white light and do not ever be afraid when you are called. Spend the time you need to to clear the air and things and be with those you love and matter the most.
      Be sure to get some good beer or wine for me if you beat me there!!:)

      over 4 years ago
    • Lexi21's Avatar

      Thank you everyone for your kind words and advice. Everything is appreciated.

      over 4 years ago
    • GetMyLifeBack's Avatar

      Spend time with the people you love doing whatever you want. Decide if you only have a short time regardless of intervention, if you really want to do treatment at all. Leave nothing unsaid. Give to others what you want them to have. Take everything in.

      about 4 years ago
    • 2bbcontinued's Avatar

      Kubler-Ross is an excellent source Took class in college on Death and Dying. Used a lot of her stuff. Made me think of death from a lot of different angles. Highly recommend Kubler-Ross.

      about 4 years ago
    • acalltofaith's Avatar

      We all will die at some point in time. Only God knows that time. Take solace in prayer. Know that it is only a short walk on this rock for each of us, so make sure you know where you are going when this temporal world ends. I believe in God and heaven, and if you do, you have no worries, for you will live on for eternity. I have been near your station in life as a four-time cancer survivor, and it is the only thing that pulled me through. Don't count your self out yet!!

      about 4 years ago

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