• How do I reply??

    Asked by JJinTX on Thursday, September 20, 2018

    How do I reply??

    When someone asks me “what kind of cancer do you have?” I’ve replied “Basal Cell skin cancer”. They usually reply something like “oh, it’s just skin cancer” or “oh, that’s nothing at all”. How do I reply to these type of comments??

    10 Answers from the Community

    10 answers
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      Did your basal cell skin cancer spread beyond the skin?

      I am not trying to be insensitive, but my family has always said the same, "It's just a little skin cancer" when they've had lesions removed from their faces (it is usually on their faces anyway). My husband has had it done and never even mentioned it to me... But, most of the people I know who have had basal cell skin cancer didn't have it spread beyond the skin. That's a different ballgame altogether.

      My stepdad had skin cancers scraped off regularly and so does my husband.

      If your basal cell skin cancer did not spread beyond the skin, what kind of reaction do you wish you would get from people when you tell them what kind of cancer you have or had?

      If it did spread beyond the skin, I would use the opportunity to inform people that it is rare, but it happens and that they should be aware of it.

      3 months ago
    • po18guy's Avatar
      po18guy

      Some folks can be so insensitive! Either don't tell them a [email redacted] thing, or mention that it can kill you if it metastasizes. I would be tempted to tell them it's contagious, then start coughing. :-D

      3 months ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      I've had so many Basal Cells & Squamous Cells that I can't keep track of them, also one Melanoma when I was very young.

      On three of the Basals, I had Moh's surgery. This is done with lot's of Lidocaine, and involves surgically removing layers of skin until the cancer cells are gone. Rather painful, depending on the location, and a quite a nerve racking experience. They left pretty serious scars on my face & leg.

      Last week, I just had another Basal removed from my the tip of my nose, it was just frozen off, and now it looks like a small rodent has gnawed my nose.

      Frankly, I am sick and tired of these annoying and regular procedures. I am sick and tired of the scars and ugly condition of my skin, and also of the people who say it's bubkes!
      Tell em' to call me.

      3 months ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      Maybe just say it's Basal Cell Carcinoma leave it at that. Or followed by an extremely aggressive form of skin cancer that can kill a person if left unchecked, then YOU can tell them, but it's OK, it's just a skin cancer, right?

      3 months ago
    • Songwriter's Avatar
      Songwriter

      It can kill you.

      3 months ago
    • JJinTX's Avatar
      JJinTX

      Thank you for all the responses. I had 8 weeks of 5FU treatment, then it was surgically removed, followed by burning of the area - but it’s just skin cancer.

      3 months ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      Yeah that’s a tough one. I have stage 4 melanoma and I was talking to a friend at work and another lady walked by and said oh my sister has that too. She just had the mole cut out then she was fine. I said oh that’s great. I am glad it worked for her. Like so many people I wasn’t so lucky. It’s frustrating some people just don’t get it.

      3 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Just three hours ago the Dr.'s office called me to tell me that I have squamous cell skin cancer. I answered her "thats no big deal" But then I am a survivor of stage IV esophageal cancer and stage II grade 3 uterine sarcoma.

      3 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I am sorry, @BoiseB. I hope it will be easily removed.

      3 months ago
    • biga17133's Avatar
      biga17133

      Hate to read that @BoiseB seems like you get over one and another pops up hope you stomp this like the others praying for you,,still taking a bath by myself biga17133

      3 months ago

    Help the community by answering this question:

    Create an account to post your answer Already have an account? Sign in!

    By using WhatNext, you agree to our User Agreement, and Privacy Policy


    Read and answer more basal cell carcinoma, skin cancer - non-melanoma questions.  Also, don't forget to check out our Basal Cell Carcinoma, Skin Cancer - Non-Melanoma page.