• How do I tell my two year old girl she is going to lose her hair?

    Asked by amandakrystyne on Tuesday, May 21, 2013

    How do I tell my two year old girl she is going to lose her hair?

    6 Answers from the Community

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    • geekling's Avatar

      You don't.

      If she understands that she will be getting medicine to make her feel better, you might explain to her that medicine sometimes has strange side effects. You can liken it to Harry Potter's magic which sometimes/always went askew in the hands of the students.

      how much time is there?

      You can also take her to the oncologist and let him explain or recommend a child psychologist who might be better informed about how to speak with children about such theings.

      I don't believe you want to be the one to tell her, Mom. She will need someone who she can run to and in whose arms she can cry who is not a part of the medicine.

      I hate to hear about these sort of things. I'm truly sorry. Let's hope that she comes out well on the other side of this.

      over 3 years ago
    • Gabba's Avatar

      Please let someone else, namely her doctor, explain what will happen during her treatment...you need to be her mom, and while you are THE MOST IMPORTANT part of her support team you should avoid becoming part of the medical team...your cancer center should have child life specialists who deal with these issues all the time and can be a huge help...my heart breaks for you and your daughter and I am so sorry you need to be facing this...please know you are not alone and we are here to support you...I send you positive thoughts and lots of prayers. God bless!

      over 3 years ago
    • carm's Avatar

      As an oncology/end of life nurse, this is something that always comes up and I have indeed been asked by pediatric patients why their hair is falling out. You do have to be creative. I usually tell them that God has sent angels to her while she slept and they measured her hair and head. God determined that although her hair was beautiful indeed, he instructed the angels to weave hair made from the finest silk and sunshine. That right now, all the angels are making her special hair and that no one here but her was chosen to wear that special hair. That soon,when the angels are almost finished, they are going to come down and whisper to her head to let go of her old hair so that they can get her beautiful head ready to wear Gods perfect hair. That she is so lucky to be chosen because the rest of us will have to wear the hair that everyone else has. But only she will be lucky enough to wear the hair spun together from the most beautiful angels that live in the clouds. For some reason that usually works. I also usually go to the nearby pet store first and ask them to hold 2 white feathers from the bottom of a bird cage. When you have them put one on her pillow and one on the floor. Then you can prove to her that the angels were there. Petsmart is good about helping you get those feathers. Good luck, Carm RN.

      over 3 years ago
    • Ydnar2xer's Avatar

      I agree with the wonderful ideas already written here, but would also suggest going hat or wig shopping with her. Maybe she will want to wear a tiara--it might be fun--and make her feel special. There are online sites that sell inexpensive costume wigs and some are kid-sized. She might enjoy choosing something like that. My, you have had to deal with a lot. Good luck and we all are thinking of you.

      over 3 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Hugs, what a difficult thing to have to do. Others have given you some great suggestions, so all I will add is my prayers and healing vibes. Remember children are resilient when they are supported, and it sounds like you and your loved ones are supporting your DD.

      over 3 years ago
    • amandakrystyne's Avatar

      Thanks to everyone that has replied so far. That all was incredibly helpful!

      over 3 years ago

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