• How do my experiences compare with others?

    Asked by luckylady on Tuesday, April 30, 2013

    How do my experiences compare with others?

    I'm not currently in any sort of support group, hope I can do this via e-mail or phone to minimize disruptions.

    12 Answers from the Community

    12 answers
    • Clyde's Avatar

      Which experiences are you talking about? Just the support group or something else? If its just the support, this is a good place to talk but if its something else, you need to be more specific.

      over 4 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN (Best Answer!)

      If you have questions or need help with any subject, just type out what you need or what you would like to talk about in the questions board several will be happy to talk with you.

      over 4 years ago
    • StrongSteph's Avatar

      I have found this site very helpful because there are no questions you can't ask! Just keep browsing and posting anything. We have all been there!

      over 4 years ago
    • Kathy's Avatar

      I agree with the others. If you can be more specific there will undoubtedly be others that will respond. I don't know how many are on this site but it must be quite a few!!

      over 4 years ago
    • IKickedIt's Avatar

      You need to do what is best for you. I didn't want to be in a support group. I didn't want to hear other people's stories at that time. I needed to surround myself with only happy things, optimistic people. I went as far as screening my phone calls as I had a good friend who reached out, but she was a Debbie-downer and only talked about her problems with her marriage, her divorce, her kids and her battle with cancer. I let the answering machine pick up and then I would send her an email thanking her for her concern, etc. This is your journey and you need to control the outside elements.

      I am here now because I want to help people who want help. I text and email those who have asked.

      I always said, I didn't want cancer and I didn't want it to affect my life and the lives of my loved ones any more than it needed to. While you're going through this journey, you have every right to control your environment and say yes to those who are going to help you in the way you need to be helped, and no thank you to those who might adversely affect you, your physical and emotional health.

      Good luck.

      over 4 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      This site is great....I also frequent breastcancer.org
      I neve found an inperson support group that met my needs....okay I only tried two....the first one was horrid and the second one was okay but it didn't last past the summer......haven't tried one in years.....I have made "friends" from the cyber support groups and have met several gals in person and can say we truly are friends!!!! hope you can connect with some gals here....

      over 4 years ago
    • Gabba's Avatar

      Please let us know how we can be of assistance...is there a particular concern or question...this is a wonderful site for support and answers...good luck and God bless!

      over 4 years ago
    • savingrace's Avatar

      I agree with all the other comments. This is a great site with great people who have "been there and done that". If you have some specific concerns don't hesitate to ask. Everyone is here to help, encourage and support each other.

      over 4 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      At first, I thought I would like a support group but then I had heard of someone who got very discouraged listening to the negative stories. I need to hear the positive stories which give me the hope that I need to stay strong. WhatNext has been my answer -- I can share, ask questions, answer the questions that I am able to, etc. I have benefitted from the support of my WhatNext Friends so much. You have found the right place!!! Good Luck!

      over 4 years ago
    • CAL's Avatar

      I choose not to go to a local support group but only because it meant one more time away from home and other aspects of my life which help keep my spirits up. I suppose there was also a deep sense that I needed to protect myself from taking on everyone elses' problems (I am a nurse and I tend to do that anyway). That sounds a bit selfish, but I think most people on this site understand that. Also, the support group meets at the clinic/hospital where I go. I spent so much time at the clinic/hospital between August and now that I just wanted to avoid it. I do have a wonderful support group of family and friends both locally and online so even though most of them have not dealt with cancer, they have been my group to vent to, cry with, pray with and for me, hold my hands when I am scared and sometimes to help distract me from my fears by getting me back into "normal activities."
      I have found this site very helpful for many reasons. I agree that here we can ask any questions and even though our situations may be different, it is really helpful to hear of others' experiences and get feedback about concerns or how to deal with side effects, etc. I can't predict what I will do the further away I get from my diagnosis and treatment but I know that I will always keep an eye on this site. I don't want cancer to be the sum total my existence for the rest of my life, but I do want it to be one of the learning experiences that makes me a better person.

      over 4 years ago
    • Giraffe's Avatar

      I have. Not used a support group. I have friends and family that are my support. I found the What Next website to be most supportive. My questions were always answered. I am thankful for the support. Thanks to everyone!

      over 4 years ago
    • Melp's Avatar

      One thing I learned real quick is no two stories are alike. We are on our own journey.

      about 1 month ago

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