• How do you come to grips with the fact that everything you have worked for all of your life could be gone, lost, life changed forever?

    Asked by MyLungCancer on Tuesday, January 14, 2020

    How do you come to grips with the fact that everything you have worked for all of your life could be gone, lost, life changed forever?

    We retired, paid off everything, moved to a new state, new house, new dreams, and were getting ready to really enjoy the sunset of our lives. Now this XXX diagnosis comes and is going to ruin our lives. I'm so XXX at the world right now. How do you deal?

    8 Answers from the Community

    8 answers
    • Teachertina's Avatar
      Teachertina

      How do we deal with it? One day at a time. I still make long term plans but have to be flexible at times. I’m in my 14th year of survival. I’ve lost one kidney , part of the other one and half a lung. There was a 3 year recurrence and then another 9 years after that. Today I’m a year NED again. I still go to the beach every chance I get and do other things I love. My advice is to keep living your life as much as possible!

      3 months ago
    • wmsavs' Avatar
      wmsavs

      Acceptance of our new normal helps us to persevere. Don't allow the diagnosis to define you. Try to maintain a positive attitude and don't be afraid to ask for help. Please keep us posted.

      3 months ago
    • Guitarman's Avatar
      Guitarman

      Scary time indeed. I was dx with stage 3- non Hodgkin lymphoma 6 years ago. Had just retired early, company forced out employees. Started new phase of life and wham, cancer. My insurance had high co pays. Stay of one month for stem cell transplant, and appt almost everyday after discharged at cancer institute. My insurance did not cover any MD appt. After time, learned payment plans accepted for what you can afford. Also forced to accept one day at a time to keep sanity. Hang in there!

      2 months ago

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