• How do you cope, when all you want to do is keep hurting, when you lose someone to Cancer?

    Asked by 4HeartsBroken on Wednesday, December 12, 2012

    How do you cope, when all you want to do is keep hurting, when you lose someone to Cancer?

    4 Answers from the Community

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    • nancyjac's Avatar

      I am so sorry for the loss of your Grandmother. The loss is still fresh and very painful. Over time the pain will lessen and your memories will remain. I doubt your Grandmother would want you to keep hurting, so when you are ready, when you have finished grieving, go forward with your own life and make her proud.

      almost 4 years ago
    • gwendolyn's Avatar

      Be patient with your grief. It will be with you for a long time. Eventually, your sadness will be less raw and have calmness blended in with it. Grief will steal your time and energy for a long while. Let yourself be sad but be open to other emotions, too, as they come along.

      almost 4 years ago
    • maralyn's Avatar

      my prayers and cares are with you,,, nancyjac said it all, be patient with yourself, i believe we are here to live on and share the memories of those we have lost,,, we never want to forget our loved ones,,, the hurt and pain of her loss will ease,,, but cherish the love that is in your heart for her, for that love will remain there forever!!!

      almost 4 years ago
    • RachaelC@StF's Avatar
      RachaelC@StF Community Outreach Coordinator 317-528-7794

      Hi 4HeartsBroken,
      I lost my grandma to occular melanoma nine years ago. By the time she was diagnosed, it had spread to her bones and there wasn't much anyone could do. I was so close to her- used to spend summers with her and she's the one who taught me how to cook. Yesterday would have been her 85th birthday. Every time I visit my grandpa, I expect to see her waiting at the door to give me a hug, so memories like that never fade away. Sometimes, little things that remind me of her make me want to cry- even nine years later. So I cry. But I always feel better after I do, because I remember all the good that she was. Keep your head up. If you want to cry, do. If you hurt, it's ok. Your memories of her won't fade away, but the pain will lessen with time. Be patient- it's hard to lose someone you love. And keep your head up. If she's anything like my grandma, she wouldn't want you to be sad for too long!

      almost 4 years ago

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