• How do you cope when your cancer support mentor passes away

    Asked by NETsurvivor on Wednesday, September 3, 2014

    How do you cope when your cancer support mentor passes away

    Jan Naritomi-Hart January 1, 1951 - August 31, 2014 I will deeply miss her. She was the one who gave me strength to make it through when I first had surgery. I am in shock, and numb. Where do I go from here? How do I get past this?

    Thank you all

    12 Answers from the Community

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    • NETsurvivor's Avatar
      NETsurvivor

      Thank you everyone.. Buckeye Shelby.. You are so right, I think I am fine, and then... here it comes again. She had the same cancer,there is a lot of emotion that goes with that.

      Barryboomer, I have been mentoring a friend. She has not been feeling well for a while. I forced her to go in and the found atypical cells in her thyroid. So now I am helping her navigate through the unknown. It still does not stop the pain, but I know it is what Jan would have done.

      32505, I hope you find strength as well. It sounds like you have a lot you are dealing with. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

      Azuper. You are correct. I feel so broken right now, and my own cancer symptoms are starting to return. That is what happens with the stress in our lives, it causes us to find our symptoms to get worse..

      Thank you again everyone for reaching out to a total stranger..

      over 5 years ago
    • Ejourneys' Avatar
      Ejourneys

      I am so sorry for your loss, and am grateful for the mentoring that you are doing, yourself. There is no right or wrong way to grieve; it just is. Please be gentle with yourself and do whatever you need to do. We are here for you.

      over 5 years ago
    • Beeps' Avatar
      Beeps

      As others have said, so very sorry for your loss. I'm sure your dear friend would want you to live as full a life as possible! It's so hard loosing someone we love and lean on too! Overtime, the pain lessens, the sweet memories strengthen us, and we move onward carrying what we've learned & sharing it with others.
      I totally agree, it makes it more difficult when the one we loose is one that has shared the same diagnosis. It gives rise to multiple layers of fears. Try to remember, no two are exactly alike!
      We must try to not allow fear to rule, but instead take rule over our fear! Prayers & blessings sent up for you-

      over 5 years ago

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