• How do you deal with a terminal diagnosis mentally and emotionally

    Asked by bendooling on Friday, May 24, 2013

    How do you deal with a terminal diagnosis mentally and emotionally

    Ive decided to leave treatment after 24 rounds of chemo, my body can't take it anymore. any advice would be helpful...

    11 Answers from the Community

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    • bendooling's Avatar
      bendooling

      Thank you for your responses. Because the cancer is in fact me, myself, how can I expect to win a fight?

      almost 9 years ago
    • Peroll's Avatar
      Peroll

      bendooling, the cancer is not you. Yes you host it and yes it started out as cells from your body that mutated but it is only a small portion of your body and definitely not all of you there is much more of you that is not cancerous than there is of you that is. Some new forms of cancer treatment are actually training the immune system to attack and kill the cancer just like it attacks and kills viruses and bacteria. This is using you body to fight the invading cancer cells. Cancer is a fight you can win and that lots of people win every day. You just need to decide that you want to win and do what ever is necessary to win. Good Luck and let us know how we can be of help.

      almost 9 years ago
    • akc1213's Avatar
      akc1213

      Hi Everyone, I am a very close friend of Ben's...I wanted to thank you all for reaching out to ben- I wanted to give you an update on how he is doing. He has tried to get back onto the site to respond, but is having trouble navigating his way thru it. Chemo stopped working for Ben about four months ago or maybe a little more... He switched oncologists, got other opinions, tried different chemo treatments with no success. He did try a clinical trial thru Dana Farber, but his body just couldn't take it. He and his team of docs and family have felt its time for Ben to enjoy life, side effect free. Since he made that decision a few weeks ago, he is at peace, so relaxed. He is receiving hospice care, and is so much more comfortable. I've been telling him that all of you have written to him, and that means so much to him. I am going to make sure his username and password are stored into his computer so he can easily get on and talk with everyone on this site. Ben has been keeping a poetry blog about his experience with cancer for a while now. He hopes that his writing will help other people in similar situations as him. His website is www.bendooling.com , maybe he can help you all in some way. Keep the faith...

      almost 9 years ago

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