• How do you deal with couped up anxiety and emotion

    Asked by toml on Wednesday, November 30, 2011

    How do you deal with couped up anxiety and emotion

    I amsupposedly cancer free. My last psa was 0.05. I just have this doubt in my mind. I have lost 2 friends recently to cancer and a third has been to that his has about 4 months left. I was an emotional mess before finding out I had cancer, but now everything bothers me. I have an appointment with the cancer center on the 5th for a 2nd opinion of a body scan report. The doctor said I have areas of contamination, but they are not cancer. He could not explain "Contamination". I think I need to talk with a psychiatrist, but can't really afford another bill. I haven't worked now in a real job since being layed off in 2007. Now I feel a lot of not being worth a XXX. I can't find any work, and my wife is left with the stress of her job to pay the bills. I do have a small retirement that is paying the house payment. I have taken up photography as a business and it is starting to pay a little. Sometimes in the back of my head I have a bad voice. I have 5 Grand kids, I want to be here.

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    • SunnyCloud's Avatar
      SunnyCloud

      When I was told that I was cancer free & done with therapy, I became anxious and depressed. I didnt know what to think, do, or feel. Then I was wondering what is the sense in being happy or relieved...why bother living if I might get it again and die? I called my social worker at the cancer center. She referred me to a doc. I joined support groups and let all my friends know how I was feeling. That included my husband whom is not very supportive. He is one of those that cant handle such things. Anyhow, the more I talked about it the better I felt. Then one morning as I was waking up, I had the thoughts, "I want to die. I just dont want to live anymore." Suddenly, I had a thought. "Those thoughts are not my own." and "Why would God answer prayers of healing just for me to be sad and anxious?" No, He would want me glad & thankful. He would want me to have stronger faith in Him. Now, I practice switching negative thoughts to positive ones. And, I keep in mind a friend's quote, "Instead of thinking what if you die? What if you live and you missed out on all the joys?" No meds needed for me, just need a close relationship with God, pray about everything, and have faith in Him. Fear, sadness, anxiety...is not from God & is not His desire for you. P.S. I claimed my healing as mine and done when I first found out that I had cancer. And so it was. God bless & may He fill you with His strength & peace. Amen.

      over 2 years ago
    • mspinkladybug's Avatar
      mspinkladybug

      Welcome to survivor ship! what u r feeling is so normal it is alos very normal for us to get ptsd our bodies r at war we saw people lose the battle we r battle scares talk to ur onc or gp about this and it may be time to get on something for awhile. good luck

      over 2 years ago
    • steve70x7's Avatar
      steve70x7

      As a Veteran I have a support group available to me at no cost. I was already plugged into this system and the transition from combat PTSD concerns to having cancer concerns was smooth. I found out that several of my fellow Veterans have been through the same struggles.

      I hope you are doing better!

      almost 2 years ago

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