• How do you deal with initial feelings of fear, worry, and insecurity?

    Asked by HotRodTodd on Monday, May 20, 2013

    How do you deal with initial feelings of fear, worry, and insecurity?

    Seems like I get over it, then it comes rushing back.

    4 Answers from the Community

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    • leepenn's Avatar

      SOOOOO been there... and still go there at times. The good news is that when people say that this aspect of cancer treatment and recovery gets better and better with time... it's true. It usually does.

      Sometimes, I wake up in the middle of the night thinking about it. Sometimes, it's a comment from a co-worker. Sometimes, ... well, I'm sure we can all give examples of how to get the cancer-monkey talking.

      So, I've decided that I need to let myself have a few minutes of that intense fear and worry... I accept that my mind just needs to do some of that some of the time. Then I try to redirect my thoughts to other things or remind myself that my prognosis is good and my health currently strong... And sometimes, I ask one of my cancer friends to just give a listen... or I head to the local support group and talk there.

      I have learned that WHO you talk to matters a lot. If I talk to the "wrong" people - namely, those that think that I must have a positive attitude at all times or die - I feel worse. I have a small number of safe friends - friends who simply can accept where I am at any particular moment... friends who drop the subject if I need them to... etc... Those safe friends are precious, and nearly all of them are cancer survivors and/or patients....

      So, I hear you... And I can totally relate.

      over 3 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      I think you will have good days and you will have bad days. We have to try to not let the bad days consume us. I honestly don't know if there is an easy way to handle this. We all have or have had the same fears. When you're initially told you have cancer what's the first thing that goes through your mind? Before I found out what type of cancer I had, I self diagnosed myself with stage IV, terminal cancer. Didn't matter what kind, I just figured my time was about up. Fast forward to today and my fears are different. Will there be a recurrence? Will I get some type of cancer 20 - 30 years down the road from all the chemo they pumped into me? Maybe from all the CT Scans? These are all normal fears and I think it's perfectly healthy to have them. It's when they completely consume you that they become a problem. At that point it's probably best to seek counseling.

      over 3 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      To be frank with you I remind myself that we are "ALL" here for a very short time. Do we choose to use that time in worry or in doing something we enjoy..We live in a temporary world.

      And that's were faith for me comes into the picture.

      over 3 years ago
    • MarianneT's Avatar

      I began to get really panicky and anxious at the beginning of the process...I just plain and simply felt out of control. I chose to really focus on things that I CAN control. Once you try to look at these things you begin to realize that there is so much you can focus on that is within your control. For example I focused on eating well, exercising, choosing not to read online (never looked up things like survival stats for example) or be around anyone that could effect my positive attitude. I must say even 2 years out it comes back to me around the time of my follow up (which is now). I am choosing to take a second look at the things I can do better now to prevent a recurrence. For me it will be controlling my weight. so as I wait for my test results on pins and needles I am focusing on eating healthier. It makes me feel like I am doing something. Good luck to you.

      over 3 years ago

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