• How do you explain to your family that you can make your own decisions for your body. Without losing your patience

    Asked by nightsky on Tuesday, October 11, 2011

    How do you explain to your family that you can make your own decisions for your body. Without losing your patience

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    • Donnaakins' Avatar
      Donnaakins

      Trying to make my family accept I was in control of my treatment was very difficult. The difficulty was making my older sister give up control. She is an RN and and has been a wonderful supporter of me thoughout my life. She was used to me following her advice and her advice was always appreciated; however, when I was diagnosed I had every intention of choosing my own path with the team of my choosing. It was very difficult for her to accept, especially when I was prescribed percocet for pain. I choose not to go through the details here, only to say the hardest part of my treatment was to have my family question everything I did and accuse me of being drug dependant.

      I continue to work on the emotional pain I've been caused by this experience. It was more difficult than the cancer itself! With the help of my therapist I've realized my sister's reactions were caused by fear. I followed my therapist's suggestion to call a mental truce and remove my sister as my "go to" person for medical issues. If I share them she takes ownership.

      I may have vented more than I helped(:

      about 2 years ago
    • Capriness' Avatar
      Capriness

      I wish I knew! I decided not to get treatment after my second recurrence but the pressure from my friends, family, and doctors, (yes, my doctors too!) was intense. So I got treatment again. But I told all of them that if it came back a 3rd time I would not get treatment and that was my decision and it was final. They all agreed. Now that I'm in stage IV they have all backed off verbally but they still pressure me in other ways, like talking about the future that they're sure I'll be a part of. I've given up. I figure their concerns are all coming from their love for me and so I can't blame them for wanting me to fight more. I would probably do the same if the tables were turned.

      over 1 year ago
    • zappons' Avatar
      zappons

      I just explained to them that the most important thing was to make sure I was safe, which of course they had to agree with. Then explained that I appreciated their thoughts and input and would take that into consideration when I made my decision, as ultimately, I was the one that had to live with the decision made. :) Good luck. Sometimes I have found it helpful to just say, "This is the choice/decision that works best for me." Tends to stop the conversation. :)

      over 1 year ago

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