• How do you explain to your partner that you might become inadequate halfway through?

    Asked by HotRodTodd on Saturday, February 23, 2013

    How do you explain to your partner that you might become inadequate halfway through?

    6 Answers from the Community

    6 answers
    • Peroll's Avatar

      I think that the only thiong you can do is be honest and tell them the truth. You can also hope for the best and discuss the situation with your Drs to try and select procedures with the least probability of this effect. Good Luck

      over 3 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar

      It does happen. I am the wife of a cancer patient (peroll) and he's been fighting this for 8+ years now, and I can tell you the best thing you can do is talk about it with each other. Be honest. You have cancer and with the cancer comes all kinds of unfortunate side effects, this being one of the unfortunate side effects.

      My thoughts are with you.

      over 3 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      I assume this is a new partner and not a spouse. Being honest and talking about it BEFOREhand is best. You prevent the awkward surprise that way and lessen your own fear of it being a surprise. And if it does happen, there are other ways to provide pleasure.

      over 3 years ago
    • Nancebeth's Avatar

      I have breast cancer and had a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction. However, I have no nipples or areolas. The man I started dating during chemo couldn't handle it when we were first getting intimate. He freaked out when he saw my breasts and couldn't go through with it.
      I am currently dating a man who was a good friend before cancer and my reconstructed nippleless boobs don't bother him at all.
      It may be difficult for a new partner to deal with, however, if your partner really loves and cares about you, you all should be able to work through it.
      If not, you may have to let them go. Couples therapy with a therapist that specializes in cancer might be able to help as well.

      over 3 years ago
    • SpunkyS's Avatar

      If your partner has a problem that you can't address together, then the partner is the inadequate one for you.

      over 3 years ago
    • mgm48's Avatar

      All good answers! But consider that my wife always said there were lots of ways to please a woman and now that Johnson jumped ship we do other stuff to amuse our selves. You know I think sometimes she likes me more now than when Johnson could salute.

      Keep it positive and smile :)

      over 3 years ago

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