• How do you get someone who has a really good chance for recovery motivated, when they are so devastated emotionally and physically?

    Asked by LeslieS on Friday, September 7, 2012

    How do you get someone who has a really good chance for recovery motivated, when they are so devastated emotionally and physically?

    3 Answers from the Community

    • RuthAnne's Avatar
      RuthAnne

      I'm not sure that you can 'get' anyone motivated to participate in their own recovery. I think a lot of the time they have to come to it on their own - which may take some time. There's a lot of mental gymnastics that can need to take place (depending on the person) before they are actually able to be motivated to do much of anything. I think all you can do is offer support and have the tools ready when they are ready.

      On the other hand, I've also read about situations where a partner gets tired of waiting for their loved one to become motivated and basically tells them to stop being selfish and get their butt in gear and it works.

      about 5 years ago
    • Madison's Avatar
      Madison

      For myself, I was having the huge problems with emotional devastation and my husband who has the actual cancer was positive. For myself, I got some therapy to help deal with this crisis. My answer would be to do whatever you need to do to deal with it. Ask your doctor for suggestions. I am sure you are not the first case they have seen with this problem. There's all kinds of support out there if you seek it. Good luck.

      about 5 years ago
    • magdem's Avatar
      magdem

      It's really difficult. As the patient, I go through days of fighting the good fight, trying to give it my all and then there are the days I fall into depression and oh, what's the use. It's tough to be upbeat all the time and what makes it even more difficult for me anyway is having to stay in a hotel room, away from friends and loved ones. There are days I get depressed and don't answer the phone, but then I rally and make the calls myself. My husband tries to motivate me, and yes, he has also told me he can't fight my fight for me, he can only fight it with me. At those times I realize how selfish I'm being and I need him to let me know how he feels and what he's going through. It is all so difficult for everyone involved. I wish you strength and good luck.

      almost 5 years ago

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