• How do you handle finding out/finally admitting that you cannot do the job you used to do?

    Asked by packerbacker on Wednesday, September 19, 2012

    How do you handle finding out/finally admitting that you cannot do the job you used to do?

    I fell and fractured a vertebrae, and they found a cancerous tumor on my spine and cancer in my bones. I'm an ortho nurse and all my docs (surgeon, chemo, and radiation docs) have told me that I won't be able to do my job anymore, or they don't recommend it (lifting). I knew it, but didn't want to admit it. I'm sure I'll find another job, but I love my job and the people I work with! I am still pretty upset. If this has happened to you, how did you handle and accept this? I do feel very fortunate that I still can work right now.

    3 Answers from the Community

    • Peroll's Avatar

      When I was first diagnosed We had a horse farm that I in addition to my Engineering job. Before cancer I would work 2 to 4 hours a weekday and 10 to 12 hours on weekends on the farm. We loved the farm but had to hire more help and eventually sell the farm at a significant loss. It was hard to realize I could not keep up with the work. I really enjoyed the challenge of the work. At least I can still do my Engineering job that I also love. I have worked during chemo treatments. I would suggest that you see if there is modified duty or a similar job you can do. A hospital should be considerate of your situation.

      over 8 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      I t is a tough realiziation. I run a landscape Design/build Company. Very physical work, I would go out with the crew right after I was done with treatment out of boredom, I had been couped up not doing much outside and wanted to help. I found out right away that I couldn't do what I used to. It wasn't so bad then, because I thought that with time I would be able to do more. I can do some more, but not anywhere near what I used to. I have finally just admitted that I can't do it. I am lucky enough to have people working for me that can do what I need done, but still it is like being down one man when I can't do the tasks that need to be done. At night when I get home I am very sore, it is hard on me to try to do what I used to. Maybe you can find something in the same field but a different job title, different tasks. I wish you well!

      over 8 years ago
    • teddyfuzz's Avatar

      That's a tough one. I did a lot of crying. Change is hard, especially when it's being forced on you. Try to find the positive - it's in there somewhere. *hugs*

      over 8 years ago

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