• How do you stay positive?

    Asked by cancervivor on Monday, December 17, 2012

    How do you stay positive?

    With everything that is going on around you, and thinking about your own conditions, what do you do to keep a positive outlook on everything?

    9 Answers from the Community

    9 answers
    • StrongSteph's Avatar

      Well, I am a stage IV melanoma survivor...staying positive was really hard. During treatment I kept looking towards the future and thinking about what I was going to do when I was well again. Two things I wanted to do: 1) go paddle boarding in the Dana Point Harbor and 2) go to Universal Studios. I spent a lot of time sitting in my Mom's car watching the paddle boarders. I knew I would do it when I was well! I also saw a lot of commercials for King Kong at Universal Studios...my treatment was in L.A. I thought about being back home...it was hard, but on a daily basis I had to look forward and remember what I was fighting for. I allowed myself a lot of tears...I cried and mourned the loss of my health...but prayed it would return. It is so hard to do.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Sugarshine's Avatar

      I stay positive because I have family, every minute I have with them is a great thing. I do not want them to remember me as a doom and gloom person. They give me so much support and love I can do no less. I guess no matter how old they get I still stay in Mommy mode and am very protective and want only the best for them. It serves no purpose to show how scared I get, besides, that's what sharing here is for , y'all give me strength and courage and allow me to cry without judgement ;-)

      almost 4 years ago
    • Peroll's Avatar

      To me being positive does not have to be 100% of the time as long as you are positive more than you are negitive then overall you are positive. I try and remember what I am fighting for and what I want to live for. When I get down I curl up with a dog, kittt or my wife and remeber that they love me and need me.

      almost 4 years ago
    • po18guy's Avatar

      Old fashioned faith. I began to live not so much for this life, as for the next. I began at stage 4 with "innumerable" tumors and cancer in my bone marrow - in a rare cancer that has a poor prognosis at any stage. I underwent four months of intensive chemotherapy on the chance that the cancer would respond. The chemo was stopped when my health was at the tipping point, yet the cancer came rushing right back, dropping my prognosis to "very poor." When there was only one last massive in-patient infusion (with no hope of remission) and palliative care/hospice left, I let go of any and all claim that I had on my life. I knew that I had not given life to myself, and that I was not calling it home. I placed my very existence in God's hands and just let go. At that precise time, a clinical trial of an experimental drug opened up. I entered the trial and the cancer went into remission. It has stayed there now for over 3 1/2 years. I am now thankful for each and every day - even to wake up in the morning. In truth, the cancer has become a blessing, as it has awakened me to the finite nature of my earthly life. I have had to confront death twice now. I find that the more you face it, the less power it has over you.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar

      As a caregiver, to Peroll, it is sometimes hard to stay positive. I find myself nervous and pensive whenever we go into see the oncologist for the latest CT results. One thing I do to calm myself and regain my more positive feelings is to go off alone and sit in a coffee house with my journal (hand written) and write. What begins as a negative and complaining entry soon begins to lift into something quite different and much more positive. Being in Seattle we have a coffee house on every corner, and I have my favorite spot and faorite chair to sit in while I write. I also find greaqt comfort on the water and I love to take the dogs to the beach near our home and again sit and blog. I love to hike and wish I could do some, but I am fearful of heading uo the mountain alone (Mt. Rainier) and my husband is simply not strong enough to go hiking with me, but my wish would be to have a hiking buddy--anyone here in Seattle want to do some walking? :) Another thing that helps me is that my husband keeps such a positive attitude which makes me keep my own.

      almost 4 years ago
    • fastdog's Avatar

      In a word, gratitude. And humor. Things could be SO much worse, and I am so thankful for what I have. Every night before I go to sleep, I think over all I have to be grateful for, both simple things like warmth and a roof over my head, and the more far-reaching things. I refuse to let cancer define me or change my wacky humor. I don't know if "attitude" has any bearing on serious illness. Some say yes, some say no. But it sure makes it easier to be around me, and for me to be around myself. :-)

      almost 4 years ago
    • catherinemarr's Avatar

      That is a very good question.Im not always successful at staying positive,but eliminating unfounded anxiety and depression is best done ,with good friends,,,when IM WORRIED,FRIENDS AND FAMILY

      almost 4 years ago
    • packerbacker's Avatar

      I posted a similar question a little while ago. I am working on my struggle with faith, and I have learned to really enjoy the little moments in life, like kissing my husband in the morning, talking with my Mom on the phone, stuff like that. I really have learned that every time I see family and friends is so very important and precious to me. Many people on this site have helped me to focus on the positive instead of focusing on the negative. Thank you, WhatNexters!

      almost 4 years ago
    • Harry's Avatar

      Great question.

      Maybe 2 things.

      Faith. My faith believes in miracles--and I am not talking about faith-healing. But, more than that, I can place my worries in His hands. I can't prevent bad things from happening, but He can help me cope and can carry me when I need it.

      Knowledge. I am also a scientist (this is not incompatible with the first). I learn everything I can about my cancer, treatment, etc. I don't tell the docs what to do, but I do tell them if I run across anything. I'm the one (maybe there were others) who told the docs about the treatment that I just received.

      almost 4 years ago

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