• How do you transition from caregiver back to "normal spouse"

    Asked by PPaseka on Wednesday, April 25, 2012

    How do you transition from caregiver back to "normal spouse"

    I have learned a lot about what it means to share duties and i now know how much my wife did without much support from us as far a household duties. Since her diagnosis and subsequent treatments, I assumed most of the domestic duties and run my business at the same time. My wife is now done with treatments and waiting on her first scan toward the end of June. Is it normal to feel some resentment that I cannot get others (11 and 14 year old kids) to help with chores? I am tired of being the caregiver for awhile. I hope and pray that my duties as caregivers will never be needed again even though I know that probably isn't going to be so. I am my witts end here. Any advice? PLEASE.

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    • abrub's Avatar

      At 11 and 14, it is okay to INSIST that the kids take on some of the responsibilities - they are part of the family, and must contribute as such. Simply tell them what they must do, remind them that they are part of the family. If they refuse, remove privileges.

      As the patient, I greatly appreciate all that my husband has done for me as caregiver, but I want him to have his own life as well. Fortunately, at least for the time being (and hopefully forever) his caregiver responsibilities are done, and I'm doing great.

      about 9 years ago

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