• how does one deal with the stress?

    Asked by vizslagirl on Sunday, September 9, 2012

    how does one deal with the stress?

    the last 18 months have been very tough after my cancer recurred. especially in the last 2 months i've had to switch to a new oncologist 2 1/2 hours away, i'm working full-time, i just had surgery, and i'm freaking out. i have stress migraines at the drop of a hat. i've done massage, acupuncture, anti-anxiety meds, but nothing stops my brain from spinning. any suggestions on what to try next? or is this a new "normal" that i'm just going to have to live with? : (

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    • erie94's Avatar

      I find that reading anything and everything helps. Making the time, instead of watching TV after work, or talking on the phone tiring the ears of loved ones, I read. I just read A Confession by Leo Tolstoy. I also read a novel called Pillars of the Earth. Keeps you interested. Even the bible stories are lovely and suspenseful to me. You never know! Hope it helps!!

      over 8 years ago
    • Vivenia's Avatar

      I'm sorry you're feeling snowed under by all of the changes in your life. I'm going to suggest a book and CD that have helped me, I used them in conjunction with a class. There are so many different methods that can help you manage your stress. The book "The World is NOT a Stressful Place: Stress Relief for Everyone" by Michael Olpin Phd is the non-textbook version of the course. There is also a CD that talks you through different relaxation techniques called "Stress Relief: Deep Relaxation Exercises" also by Dr. Olpin. Both are available on amazon.com

      Deep Breathing is one of the relaxation techniques that helps me, breath in deeply so your abdomen raises, hold it for a minute and release imagining all the stress leaving with the breath. Music helps me a lot too, I like to listen to nice calm classical music. Adagio's tend to be relaxing.

      If you just need to talk to someone about what's going on I'd be happy to exchange e-mails or phone calls.

      over 8 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar

      oh man - i would love to know the answer to this question.... it's so hard sometimes. i never really struggled with anxiety before cancer... but now i definitely do. and.. it stinks.

      i got quite a lot of relief from anxiety using emotional freedom technique (tapping). i was super skeptical... SOOOOPER skeptical... but i was so full of anxiety, and i had read some really interesting comments about how it works and how it has helped people handle anxiety.... so, i went for it. i had a session at our local health crisis center (pathways), and... it... was... amazing.

      you can do little mini sessions on your own by looking for videos online. in fact, the therapist i worked with said that the worst thing that can happen is .... no change. so, she said, just go for it. if you're struggling with a new anxiety or feeling an old anxiety coming back... just go for it.

      the way i've always handled stress was exercise... when i keep fit, i sleep better and handle everything better. the cancer thing kind of mucked that up, but i feel like i'm starting to get back on track these days... that's a relief! lately, though, i have quite a lot of work stress, and my better half has just started a full time position.... which adds to the stress.... and cuts into the time available for exercise. so, i try to have higher intensity workouts since i have less time... that's going pretty well... actually.

      that's all i've got.
      SUCKS that you have to go so far for your appointments.
      good luck.

      over 8 years ago
    • StraightShot's Avatar

      You need some time off to focus on getting better. If you can swing disability insurance--now would be the time. I am a two time cancer survivor--the last bone cancer for the past 3 years. There's no way I could have worked.

      over 8 years ago
    • acalltofaith's Avatar

      I know it may sound corny, but as a survivor of Ewing's Sarcoma, I sought solace in prayer, and having prayer groups pray for me. And it worked! Don't get me wrong, I still had bad days and times, but as a four-time cancer survivor, I knew to put my faith first. You can become stress free in knowing that if you have faith, the other things are less important, and you will know how to live today, and realize that it is just a short walk on this earth, and you will be set for eternity and whatever comes at you in this temporal world.

      over 8 years ago
    • tombo's Avatar

      think of all the things that have ever made you laugh,,free yourself,,try ,,just try not to worry,,pray to god and ask to let you not be afraid,,eat healthy,,ask your friends for help,,cry,,try if you can to exercise,,i will be thinking and praying for you,,i know how hard it is

      over 8 years ago
    • Tallgrass69's Avatar

      GOD IN ur life

      almost 8 years ago
    • BionicReporter's Avatar

      Sorry to hear about your stress and anxiety. I can relate - after having cancer twice (bone and thyroid, 28 years apart) and multiple surgeries (24 total), one of the best ways for me to deal with it was reading. Anything -- books, magazines, newspapers (Internet you might want to stay away from because links can take you to some stressful places) -- that is unrelated to cancer or treatment or medicine. Fiction is most helpful. Not easy to do, but you have to realize that you are in control, not the cancer (even though it sometimes feels that way). You have to focus on what you CAN control -- focus on the destination point, not the journey in getting there, and it is sometimes easier to cope. A therapist also can help -- someone who can help you focus and try to block out the external stuff that clouds your brain and often causes the stress.

      over 6 years ago

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