• How have you kept hope when a loved one is literally given a deadline on their life? What happens when there time is up?

    Asked by MarktheMan on Wednesday, February 20, 2013

    How have you kept hope when a loved one is literally given a deadline on their life? What happens when there time is up?

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    • Clyde's Avatar

      All of us will someday face that situation. When I faced this with someone I loved very much, I stayed close, talked about good times we had had together and when the end came, let them know it was okay to let go. Letting them know you love them is the most important thing you can do for yourself and them.

      over 4 years ago
    • Peroll's Avatar

      Mark, You need to realize that when a Dr gives you an estimate of how long you have that it is just an average and the data that the average is based on is at leasty 5 years old. Than means if they tell you that you have 1 year then half the people will make it past one year with some lasting much longer and even sometines getting to cancer free. I personnally have hit the 5% side of the stastics five times in a row so I know that it can happen. Good Luck

      over 4 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      All of us have an expiration date, it's just that some of us don't when that is. When you do have a pretty good idea when that is, you hope the person does what he wants to with the time left, and is able to die peacefully and without pain.

      over 4 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar

      My husband has been given a deadline 5 times in the last 8+ years and he's still here today and still fighting. The statistics you are being given are at least 5 years old and someone will survive. Be there with your loved one and let them know how much you care always.

      over 4 years ago
    • fastdog's Avatar

      We tried asking the surgeon who did my first surgery, how long he would estimate I have to live, and he said "my patients don't have expiration dates." Fair enough. Keep in mind, the physician doesn't know for absolute certain. It's an estimate based on his experience and/or statistics. Only God knows, and He isn't telling! :-) Just think of all the stories of people who have been given "weeks" to live, and who live for years. That old expression comes to mind, "hope for the best, prepare for the worst." There is always hope. A friend of mind entered a hospice when told she had days or weeks to live, and lived for 6 more months.

      over 4 years ago
    • MarktheMan's Avatar

      Thanks everyone, that does help. I didn't realize so many people have been told that until I started looking. I have decided that maybe I can be in that 5%.

      You all have helped me so much, thank you.

      over 4 years ago

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