• How Long Do I Have?

    Asked by Barbie17 on Thursday, August 21, 2014

    How Long Do I Have?

    Recurrent Ovarian Cancer - diagnosis 1-2013

    13 Answers from the Community

    13 answers
    • amontoya's Avatar

      Unfortunately, no one can answer this question. None of us know exactly how long we have to live. Maybe instead of focusing on "how long" you can try to focus on making the best of every day you have. We have all heard the saying...Live every day to its fullest as tomorrow is not guaranteed. That goes for all of us. Best wishes to you.

      over 6 years ago
    • Keith59's Avatar

      Just live each day doing the things you want to do if possible. None of us are promised tomorrow. You have been given today.....what will you do with it? Prayers and blessings.

      over 6 years ago
    • AmyJo's Avatar

      Barbie, they're right.... live for today, don't worry about tomorrow. I was told 4 years ago that I had a year or so to live and I'm still here. Don't dwell on how long you have, just enjoy what time you do have.
      We're all here if you need us!

      over 6 years ago
    • ritafaystageIV's Avatar

      Yes, none of us know how long we have. Try to make the best out of each day. I know it is hard not to wonder, and think about it. God bless us all.

      over 6 years ago
    • Julie061's Avatar

      I think about this often. I always end up telling myself that I have control over how I spend today, and I decide not to focus on what I cannot control. I decide not to waste any more time that day worrying or being anxious. To be honest, some days it is harder than others to take control and focus on enjoying the simple things in life. I also take medication for anti-depression and anxiety. I haven't always taken these meds, but once I started, I wondered why I waited so long to talk to the docs about it.

      over 6 years ago
    • Asanayogini's Avatar

      I was once told live in the present, it is a gift from God , that's why it is called the "Present" Ahhh!

      over 6 years ago
    • Jalemans' Avatar

      My husband is freaked out about this & I tell him this:
      *I could get hit & killed by a bus tomorrow, &
      *This cancer may kill me, but it won't be this week!

      My point is the same as the above, but it kind of gives it a different slant.

      over 6 years ago
    • lilymadeline's Avatar

      Only God can answer that question, but please know that many stage 4 patients live for decades! And I think that you are stage 2? Even if you are in constant treatment, you could have a long life. It happens more often than not now! Just take good care of yourself, and never be shy about getting a second, a third, a fourth, or a fifth opinion! With rare and late stage cancers where you are in treatment really can make a big difference. Good luck and God bless! HUGS! XOXO

      over 6 years ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar

      One thing I have learned in this battle with cancer is to take it one day at a time.None of us whether healthy or sick know how much time we have.Accidents,strokes,heart attacks ,and yes cancer or other illnesses can sneak up on us,and none of us are immortal.To dwell on the question of " how much time do I have?" Is wasteful and unproductive.Enjoy each day.Help yourself by making a U TURN and thinking positive , reducing the stress in your life,adopting healthy habits,and appreciating family and friends.Remember the saying " life is what you make of it".Wishing you better days ahead.Take care.

      over 6 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar

      You have until God calls you home (in my opinion). Doctors can give you best guesses. Sometimes they hit it exactly right and sometimes they don't. No one knows how long any of us have. I try to live like today might be my last day on earth. Love, laugh, live. Good luck! I hope you have lots of time left!

      over 6 years ago
    • trudiel's Avatar

      I, too, was diagnosed about 4 years ago... recurred in 2012 and have been in treatment ever since. My current treatments are hard, but I enjoy the time after I recover. I just left work in June on disability, finally. I joined a yoga class that I attend when I can. When I feel good, I feel really good and am reminded that I am alive and FUNCTIONIONG. It helps me weather the bad days.

      over 6 years ago
    • kalindria's Avatar

      Hi Barbie17 - I'm stage IV and was just diagnosed last September. My cancer isn't recurrent but my oncologist tells me that my stage IV cancer will most likely recur at some point. She says we will do more chemo at that point until it stops working. If it doesn't work, there are other things to try. If those don't work, there are clinical trials to try. What I'm trying to say is that there are plenty of treatment options if you want them. Don't give up.

      And then listen to the very smart people who posted here before me (I'd have posted sooner but I was getting maintenance chemo for five long hours today) and find delight in every day. If you have a bucket list, start doing those things. If you don't, is there something you've always wanted to do, somewhere you want to go, to see? Do it. If m ney is tight, and it is for many of us, find thinos to do that you enjoy that are free or low cost like visiting the library, reading to school kids (many schools have programs), walking shelter dogs (this helps socialize them and gives them a better chance at being adopted).

      You can also share your fears and demons here. I guarantee that whatever you're going trough, someone here has been there too. Hang in there. Breathe and walk in the fresh air for at least a few minutes each day. It will reinvigorate you and remind you that you are part of a larger network of life and it is wonderful.


      over 6 years ago
    • limbomom's Avatar

      In September 2011, I was given 6 months and I'm still here. One recurrence but everything is quiet at the moment so I will enjoy each day to the fullest.

      over 6 years ago

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