• How long till reality truly sets in ?

    Asked by girlmissy on Sunday, August 24, 2014

    How long till reality truly sets in ?

    I have this habit of plowing through my life challenges with "stoic" face on the outside, and reality of the challenge hitting me way later.

    I can already see that I am doing it now. My Mastectomy is in less than 2 weeks, and I still haven't truly even had a good cry at the reality of my latest health challenge.
    I know we are all different and handle things differently....but, how long did it take for that reality that you have cancer to truly set in ?

    38 Answers from the Community

    38 answers
    • pattiep's Avatar
      pattiep

      Girlmissy -I was a preemie, too! That's pretty funny! For years I thought other people were the stubborn ones til one day my mom pointed out that I'm incredibly stubborn. But I tend not to argue with people. I'm noncommittal and proceed to do what I want or believe what I want with no one else the wiser lol!

      almost 5 years ago
    • debsweb18's Avatar
      debsweb18

      I had tears in my eyes when told I had breast cancer, but didn't cry. Every morning for a long time I woke up and saiy I have breast cancer to make reality set in. It's not a dream. After a short while I just sat and had a good cry. It felt so good. When first diagnosed I thought I had 5 years to live. My breast surgeon gave me hope and when I found out my plan it was much easier and I began the fight. The next hard part was after treatment when the fear of recurrence set in. I was just getting better with that when I had a lung biopsy. I was even more scared than when first diagnosed. Then I concentrated on redoing my reconstruction. My final part-the tattoo will be in a couple of weeks. Who knows where my emotions will take me after that!

      almost 5 years ago
    • girlmissy's Avatar
      girlmissy

      I can't believe how many wonderful people have shared their thoughts. I've noticed this past week that I have had recurring dreams where I am telling someone from my distant past that I have cancer. Odd, since I never see these people.

      This morning I woke up with a migraine and totally nauseous, with a big day ahead to see surgeon and do preop for surgery next week. I think "reality" is hitting me... maybe it's a good thing.. but it's time to face the reality.

      Here's to all of you, for opening up and sharing your stories. You are all such supportive people...I thank you :)

      almost 5 years ago

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