• how many live alone going though this ?

    Asked by beckyleu on Wednesday, November 25, 2015

    how many live alone going though this ?

    how many like me face the nights alone going though this ?

    10 Answers from the Community

    10 answers
    • cam32505's Avatar

      I lived with my son during treatment, but he always worked as many hours as he could to get away from me.

      over 5 years ago
    • DoreenLouise's Avatar

      I lived alone. It was hard because I worked full time. I only did what was absolutely necessary at home, laundry, groceries, cooking and shoveled snow. Try to see if Cleaning For a Reason bas anyone who will help with housework. Best wishes

      over 5 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      I stayed with my best friend for a couple of days after my hysterectomy, but other than that, I was on my own. Drove myself to chemo & home. When I went to the grocery after surgery, I asked them to bag light, since I was on a 10 lb lifting limit. Took forever to get everything inside, but I stayed w/in my limit. Did laundry one small load at a time. Did lots of easy frozen or canned food. This site was actually my main support system. But I made it through treatment. Almost 3 years out from the end of chemo.

      over 5 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar

      beckyleu, please come here or other similar sites at night when you can't sleep and feel all alone. There's often at least one someone who is up and willing to chat.

      Big hugs.

      over 5 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar

      So sad that you have to deal with this alone. I am so glad I have a close extended family. Are you a member of any congregation.
      May I pray for you.

      over 5 years ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar

      I live alone, but was used to it before I got cancer. You probably need to call your doctor's office and the American Cancer Society and ask for information on support groups and maybe a counselor specializing in cancer patients. The ACS has all kinds of information, including volunteers who've had cancer and will call you. It's nice to make new friends with similar experiences. Best wishes to you.

      over 5 years ago
    • PMB's Avatar

      I lived alone during chemo. My friends stepped up and helped me. I also worked during and was exhausted. I paid a lady 40.00 a month and she came in twice a month to clean my house. So glad I did that. I wanted to be in a clean house but I couldn't do it myself Nights alone were hard a read a lot , played games on my phone and like someone else said I spent a lot of time on this site. Hugs to you

      over 5 years ago
    • Phoenix76's Avatar

      Yes, I live alone, too and although I had friends take me to my chemo treatments, I went through the experience alone most of the time.

      Nighttime was (and still is) difficult for me. I use OTC sleep aids, and try to wind down before going to bed. I like to play games like solitaire.

      Like #BuckeyeShelby said, I have to do all of the chores by myself, so I do the bare minimum. I get exhausted from doing just a minimal amount of physical activity, which is still disconcerting to me - I'm frustrated that I don't have the energy/strength/stamina that I used to.

      I think sometimes couples don't really consider the single person, and all that we have to do, as well as recuperate from our treatments.

      So, although many of us are going through this alone, WhatNext is open 24/7, and I've found it to be so supportive and helpful, and feel not so alone. ((Hugs))

      over 5 years ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar

      Having no estrogen effects your body physically and causes depression, so don't feel bad about asking the doctor for an anti-depressant and going to a counselor.

      over 5 years ago
    • ElizaM's Avatar

      I have lived alone for many years and prefer it to the idea of having to accommodate someone else's lifestyle, etc. My 2 daughters are relatively close by but they work, of course, and are seldom available. If there were some crisis they'd be here, and I appreciate knowing that. It does get lonely but I write a lot and journal how I'm feeling and work through it. I can't look for answers on the outside. I really believe it is all within me since no one around me can possibly understand what this feels like and I get sick of trying to describe it and having the expectation that someone out there would get it. I am relieved that no one I know does understand - that means they would have the same disease and symptoms. I'm just very grateful my family and friends can't understand. I hope that makes sense.

      over 5 years ago

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