• How much say have you let your loved one have during your cancer treatment?

    Asked by Sunnysideup on Friday, March 1, 2013

    How much say have you let your loved one have during your cancer treatment?

    9 Answers from the Community

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    • CAS1's Avatar

      None..I listened to his opinion but I made my own decisions because if they were the wrong choice i would not want that burden to be on his shoulders. When my family memebers/friends asked me my opinion on treatments I will always say: This is only my opinion because this is a life or death situation and I don't want the responsibility to make a choice for you that may not work out.. I will do reserch and offer them information and support. This is how I ask people to support me too.

      over 5 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      Do you mean making decisions about my treatment? If so then none. However, there were some things that I normally took care of that someone else had to deal with while I was in active treatment....thinks like household chores, sometimes paying the monthly bills, cleaning the cat boxes, cooking, etc. Whoever was doing those things for me had complete say of how it got done.

      over 5 years ago
    • HeidiJo's Avatar

      Whenever I would talk about my journey, I would say "we" about my husband and myself, we decided.... we are going to.... I knew that we were in this together. Like all our other decisions, these decisions abuot my health greatly impacted our family, so we would make them together.

      over 5 years ago
    • TinaJacques' Avatar

      I value my husbands opinions but ultimately I am the only one that is actually living with this disease and knows what it's like to have cancer first hand, and therefore his opinions will affect my decision making greatly but I am the one with the final say. I make the cancer-related decisions.

      over 5 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar

      My husband ultimately makes all his decisions, but we discuss it all openly and honestly. I go to important doctor appointments with him and all the issues and concerns are discussed with the doctor. My husband and his father also do a lot of research on suggested treatment, both in and outside the box. Thankfully we have not disagreed on a treatment plan and really do work as a team.

      over 5 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      None. I don't even discuss it with them. Its my life. I will sink or swim by my own hand.

      over 5 years ago
    • szbc's Avatar

      My wife and I make all decisions together, we have been married 34 years now. we have been as one for a long time. and 2 is stronger.

      over 5 years ago
    • Sunnysideup's Avatar

      Thanks for the answers, I just feel kind of on the fence in making the decisions and not taking the advice of family at times. It's MY LIFE!! So I wondered what everyone else was doing. I listen to them, I just make the final decision.

      over 5 years ago
    • melanomamama's Avatar

      I have had two brain surgeries, so I am aware that I could suddenly lose mental capacity. My trusted sister has my power of attorney to handle all my personal and business affairs, and she is a joint holder of my bank accounts. I have authorized my medical providers to share all my medical information with her. I signed an advanced directive allowing her to make decisions about my health care if I am unable to make them. I have directed that she be authorized to cease life support in the event that I am unable to be revived to an alert state. I think it is important that she knows in advance my wishes on this, so she will not feel guilty if she has to make that choice some day. I have not signed a "do not resuscitate order," because I still wish any emergency personnel to revive me if I become incapacitated. I learned from the hospice workers who helped me care for my mother that these are all important considerations that should be addressed sooner rather than later, while the patient can still participate in these decisions.
      Constance Emerson Crooker
      Author of Melanoma Mama: On Life, Death, and Tent Camping

      over 5 years ago

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