• How's the new hair doing?

    Asked by cbutinski on Thursday, September 27, 2012

    How's the new hair doing?

    I had long dark colored hair, I colored it on a regular basis, after I lost my hair and it finally grew back it is now salt and pepper I am 45 years old, I have recieved so many compliments but deep inside I wish I had I my old hair back, I know that this is petty but I guess I'm scared that if I go ahead and dye it and the cancer comes back then what I'll go through the emotional depression when I lost it the first time, I guess I'm asking the question how are you doing now that everything is supposedly over? Doing great emotionally this is something of the past? or living in fear? something else?

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    • teddyfuzz's Avatar

      Hi cbutinski. I would have to say yes to both. I'm doing much better emotionally than I was a year ago AND I live in fear. I try not to let the fear take over. The one thing that having cancer has taught me is that life is too short to let fear hold you back. It's not petty that you want to get back to your old self - you didn't ask for this - you didn't check the "yes" box. If it's going to make you feel good to dye your hair than for God's sake, dye it! What if you don't dye it and the cancer never comes back? If the cancer does come back, you can deal with the hair loss at that time. But at least you will have had the hair you wanted up to that point. DO IT GIRL!!!!

      about 4 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      I had thick, thick, coarse wavy long hair before Dx...it was graying, but I did not dye it (mostly cuz I didn't want the upkeep)....My hair came back in salt and pepper and baby fine...it got thicker and was curly/wavy again....2 years post chemo it was chin to shoulder length......but then on Aromasin, it thinned out and went stick straight so I cut my hair in a short style and it was cute.....I'm 6 years out and been off the AI's for 2 1/2 years....my hair is wavy again and thick, but not thick like before Dx.....My hair was always a big part of my identity, but loosing it was as bad as I thought it would be....I guess I was on autopilot through the whole dx and Tx thing......I never have "bad" hair days...just days I don't like my hair, which sometimes are many!!!! So long winded......I'd say do with your hair whatever makes you happy....

      about 4 years ago
    • jolobeme's Avatar

      My hair has grown back WHITE and I use to dye it also but I'm kind of liking my new "platinum blond" look. I am 67 so white hair is to be expected. I was wanting to stop dying my hair but letting it grow out was going to be a long process where I had gray roots getting longer and longer. Now I am keeping it white so if it falls out again I won't be that upset. If you want to dye your hair again, go ahead. You may never lose it again.
      As for living in fear, anything could happen at anytime not related to cancer, so it's just not worth it. I tell myself everyday my cancer will not come back and have tried to live my life normally since I stopped treatment.

      about 4 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Guys are a bit different than you girls, I couldn't care less if I lost my hair or not. But, just to let you know it happens to us too. Mine was wavy in the back and thick, when I had radiation it fell out just in the back of my head. It looked silly, so I cut it all short. We were standing in line at a store and One fellow had the gall to ask me "why did you cut your hair like that" before I had cut it short. I looked like a XXX I guess. I told him I didn't cut it, the cancer did. When it came back it was fine and a little different color. I lost it twice more all over from the chemo, couldn't tell any difference when it came back.
      Hope you can come to terms with your situation. For me, I try not to live in fear of it coming back, even though it has twice.
      Best to you

      about 4 years ago
    • blondie's Avatar

      Was born blonde. In high school and college colored it spring wheat, summer wheat, topaz. When I was older, changed to shades of red and ended up with strawberry blond. When I lost my hair, it grew back black. There is no black or dark haired in my Mother's or Father's family. Found a wig that was strawberry blond, Only wore it in public, Was not embarassed about being bald around the house.

      about 4 years ago
    • pll's Avatar

      Yes, color your hair!! Absolutely! It will make you feel better. As mentioned below, what if you never have cancer again? it DOES happen that cancer doesn't come back! I was diagnosed at 38 and am now 57. never have had another issue. I DO recommend getting some counseling to help you through this stage. It helped me a lot. your feelings are valid. hang in there!

      about 4 years ago
    • BruceInErwin's Avatar

      This is some good insight you all are providing. I have yet to start treatments because my cancer isn't quite at stage 1 where at that point I would start treatment. Like karen1956 my hair is very thick and full. I have dark brown salt and pepper hair. Because my hair is so thick, I tend to keep it buzzed with the bare clippers every 3 to 4 months. I am not so worried about losing my hair as getting rid of the cancer. Hair grows back, I plan to make darn sure the cancer doesn't. I say go bald and beautiful when on treatments and enjoy your locks when they come back.

      about 4 years ago
    • princess123's Avatar

      Go ahead and color your hair. It will make you feel better. If the cancer come back you will lose it again. Or you could get hit by a bus and none of this could happen.
      Just do whatever makes you feel good about yourself. Mine has more salt than pepper now that enough is back I look like a little boy with a buzz cut. I have never seen my hair like this because I always colored it.

      about 4 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Do what makes you feel good about yourself. It took me some time to realize that for me hair and hair color was not important. I have (had) thin straight hair (but you can not believe how much hair I had) which I had buzzed right after treatment started - it was about 40% white(silver). I wish I could say the fear would go away, but it doesn't, we just learn to put in prescriptive and live life to the fullest, survival is a gift- and remember the old saw "looking good is the best revenge"

      about 4 years ago
    • CarrieD's Avatar

      Hi, you have received some good advice here. If changing your hair makes you happy, do it NOW!!! Don’t let this experience control you. You control you!!! I’ve had to deal with this monster at the age of 31, 36 and then again after 18 years. Have fun, today, tomorrow or forever!!! I know it is hard, but we can do it!!!

      about 4 years ago

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