Asked by mizzleah12 on Thursday, April 25, 2013



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    • HearMeRoar's Avatar

      Mizzleah- you are in the hardest stage right now - I promise! I received my initial diagnosis in Mid January and didn't have the final pathology until the end of February. Such a scary, scary time. Stay connected here - lots of good people....

      over 3 years ago
    • AlizaMLS's Avatar

      Dear mizzleah12,

      Hi. I'm Aliza, a BC patient and the site's unofficial resident Medical Librarian. I answer questions-usually non medical ones, offers referrals to doctors, hospitals, institutions, agencies, websites, books, media, etc. and research when requested or required.

      Breast Cancer sucks no doubt and waiting sucks right up there with it! I wish I was in a position to at least speed things along for you but I'm not.

      I think however that one of the best things that I can do for you is to suggest that you contact CancerCare. The Social Workers there are trained to deal with the highly specialized needs of Cancer patients and their caregivers and nothing else. Speaking with them isn't like "regular therapy". They're not just warm and supportive. They "get it" no matter what your particular Cancer situation is. Sometimes a professional touch is called for and they're just the right people to do it. You can speak with them in-person or by phone (if you're not well enough or it's not convenient), but I'd recommend that you go in-person if you can. Seeing them really does lighten the load quite a bit, even if you talk with your spouse, all your close friends, your clergyman, post here, etc. I can't say enough good things about them!

      This site is wonderful and warm and supportive and there are many people who have no doubt been in your situation (I'm one). You should have an idea of what type and Stage you had before surgery though didn't you? Of course, surgery is the definitive answer, but your mammography films should have indicated that to a good extent. I'd be surprised if they didn't. You can always phone your Breast Surgeon to ask what the films indicated if that will help calm you a bit before the pathology report is in (that's really what you're waiting for).

      I hope you try and find time to relax (it's hard) and maybe try to take up some kind of meditation now (a lot of us do that) or yoga.

      Please keep us posted on your progress and if there's anything I can do for you, please let me know. I'm happy to help.

      Warm wishes,

      over 3 years ago
    • Vjp2012's Avatar

      Hi! You are in a scary stage. I had surgery in December 2013 and didn't receive diagnosis until mid January. So, I know how hard it is to wait. If you are religious, lean on your faith. If not, try to stay positive and look to the support from friends and new friends here at this site. Don't goggle too much and stay objective. You can do this!

      over 3 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Yes, +1 on what the others have said, I was diagnosed in Oct. and couldn't see my Oncologist until Dec. I was online most of the time trying to find more information. Most of what I found was bad. According to what I found I wasn't going to make it. That was over 4 years ago and I'm doing fine now. Try to relax and not think about it 24/7, hard to do, but try to.

      If you need to know anything, just ask, there are lots here that know a lot about everything.

      over 3 years ago
    • Gabba's Avatar

      This is such a difficult time... All my suggestions are easier said than done but...try to meditate or pray, listen to soothing music, read a book, go to the movies, have lunch with a friend, go out to dinner, anything that will help pass the time...the best advice I got was to find something to laugh at every day...I watched old reruns of Seinfeld, rented some comedies, etc.
      You will be in thoughts and prayers. Good luck and God bless!

      over 3 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      My surgeon called m 2 days after my bilat with results from the surgery....I had just walked in the house coming home from being in the hospital...she was sooooo kind....she first asked if was alone....she told me the pathology and then told my husband.....

      over 3 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      The time between diagnosis and the appointment with the Oncologist is a very dark and scary time. I can remember spending many nights weeping in the dark and trying to do it quietly so I would not wake my husband. Once you meet with the Oncologist and set up your treatment plan, you will find the strength and hope to go into battle against this evil and elusive enemy. Your attitude will change and you will endure. Besides your treatment plan, a positive attitude is a very important weapon. In no time, you will have this behind you and you can help others in your role as a SURVIVOR! I have a great faith in the power of prayer. So often, in the midst of the agony of waiting, a feeling of peace would wash over me and I sensed that someone must have just said a prayer for me. It was through the power of prayer that the Good Lord brought me through the "storm". I wish you the best and will pray for you.

      over 3 years ago
    • DianaL's Avatar

      I had a biopsy on April 3rd and on April 4th I was told the kind, size and what was thought to be the best treatment. I work in a major medical center so that may be the reason. When I had my Lumpectomy on a Thursday, I went to see my surgical oncologist on Monday and he had the final path--which was not what any of us were expecting to hear. I then had a bilateral mastectomy a month later and again from Thursday to the following Monday I had my final path.
      The good was they had gotten all the cancer in the lumpectomy and no other nodes were involved, no radiation just chemo. I had a huge support system plus my faith in God to get me through. However, I do remember just sitting and staring off into space. I have found that everything for me with cancer was very slow moving. Diagnosed in April and did not start chemo until September. Hope you find out something very soon. Good luck!

      over 3 years ago
    • bkracine's Avatar

      It took me two months or more waiting for the test results to be dx. this was in august,i started radition in sept. that is when i found out i had stage 11B lobular carcinoma.Is very scary waiting but stay strong and check in with the community so far i found it to be very helpful,active,caring and understanding.

      over 3 years ago
    • debco148's Avatar

      You should have found out what kind it was after the biopsy, and get the final pathology on your mastectomy within one week of surgery. Call your surgeon's office there is no reason it should take longer than one week. I just had some scar tissue removed and had results within 3 days. Thank God that was clear. Coping for me was meditation, and having people I love around. Also, focus on yourself, shower, fix your makeup, etc just make yourself feel better for now and get your rest.

      over 3 years ago

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