• how to deal with family

    Asked by JohnBass16 on Thursday, April 18, 2019

    how to deal with family

    6 Answers from the Community

    6 answers
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      What sort of issues are you having with them? Sometimes it's hard to talk to them about our diagnosis, and sometimes they are seemingly resentful for having to help take care of us. We've all been through some of that, let us know what you need. There are lots that are happy to help.

      about 1 month ago
    • JaneA's Avatar
      JaneA

      I'm sorry that you're having this frustration. Sometimes, our loved ones are scared and frustrated too and don't know what to say or do. I hope that things will settle down soon. Best wishes for treatment success.

      about 1 month ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      My son, who I had always been very, very close to, had great difficulty dealing with my diagnosis. He handled it poorly ... and he actually got pretty angry toward me. I told my husband that I wasn't going to talk to him (our son) anymore... I had enough on my plate without dealing with his issues. It was some months before I spoke to him again ... and by the time we reconnected, he had dealt with his demons and was ready to be a support rather than a thorn in my side.

      about 1 month ago
    • po18guy's Avatar
      po18guy

      I was always quite close to my dad. When my dad developed lung cancer (Camel straights for 30+ years), I found myself drawing away from him - as if he had somehow failed me. I also felt helpless. My older brother, with whom he had a very contentious relationship, drew near and cared for him to the end. So, our responses can be all over the map.

      If only they knew that all they had to do was love you. I wish now that I have known that.

      about 1 month ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      @po18guy ... when my dad was dying of lung cancer back in the 70's, I too became closer to him than I'd ever been since the time that I was a very little girl. We also had had a very contentious relationship for most of my life, but I grew in admiration of him for how he lived his life the 6 months he lived after diagnosis. I don't know if he felt any closer to me, but I sure gained a new respect for him.

      about 1 month ago
    • LoverOfGynOncs' Avatar
      LoverOfGynOncs

      Not sure what type of “family” issues you’re having,... sorry for any you may face! That sucks especially when this cancer crap takes so much energy to fight ! Who needs more crap on their plate when going through this!
      In my own experience , I for one have come to the realization that those that truly mean something and those that truly love me unconditionally WILL BE THERE,... the rest of them (yes even those I thought were close to me since we are family) can just keep showing their true colors! This cancer journey has revealed true cares and concerns and lack thereof, from people in and now outside my circles. I am grateful for the clarity. Yes it does hurt for a moment to not get a visit , phone call, text or hello, or even a oh hey glad ya made it through all this cancer and chemo crap, not a word of concern for 5/6 months all the way through the hardest times of my life but hey it cleared the path of the true LOVED ONES! Grateful for the ones who do care!

      27 days ago

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