• How to live with the fear of possible having to have a colostomy?

    Asked by SirKenneth on Sunday, June 9, 2013

    How to live with the fear of possible having to have a colostomy?

    As a 63 old male, how would I approach a women of interest to me for dating and maybe love making?

    3 Answers from the Community

    • fastdog's Avatar

      The same way you would have before. If you're looking for any kind of meaningful relationship, you will have a nice long "getting to know you" phase, during which time you will both gradually reveal more and more about yourselves. Long before you mention a colostomy, or even the possibility of one, you will know if she cares enough about you to continue to the point where you will tell her about this. Just be yourself, and above all, be honest. Don't rush things. And relax. Chances are, she will have a few "battle scars" she is nervous about revealing, too.

      over 3 years ago
    • Tracy's Avatar

      I absolutely agree with fastdog, we all have baggage and scars of one kind or another. Getting close is a scary thing but when it comes time to being with someone new you have stories to tell. Your stories are ones of courage and strength. If this is the woman that you want to be with she will see this. My husband met me after many scars and has learned way too much of hospital waiting rooms since. The good ones are still out there, Tracy

      over 3 years ago
    • CrazyHarry's Avatar

      It adds a while new level of excitement. My wife has one too. It takes some agility but it can be done. And sometimes it gets a little messy. Have fine with it and enjoy the challenge.

      As for me, the surgery itself had some impact on my ability to even do it. Healing and praying the little guy will forgive me and come out and play.

      over 3 years ago

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