• How to move ahead

    Asked by kkelly111 on Tuesday, May 28, 2013

    How to move ahead

    I have been finished with treatment 5 months ago from stage 3 c ovarian. I am finding it hard to look ahead, one thing that bothers me is looking in a mirror and not knowing the person that's looking back at me. I am so happy that the treatment was a success but does anyone else feel the shock of a different look and the fear of the 3 month scans?

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    • Nancebeth's Avatar

      I absolutely felt the shock for a while. I am 8 months post treatment for breast cancer and finally used to seeing my new "breast mounds" when I look in the mirror. Also my aged skin and everything else. People always say to embrace the new normal. I dont like that term because nothing is really normal in my life anymore but I have embraced the new me. It took a while. Patience, but it will come. The thing that really helped me the most was just getting back to my regular habits. I started sewing again and taking Spinning classes at the gym and baking. Doing what I loved before cancer brought me back to reality.

      over 3 years ago
    • GypsyJule's Avatar

      My treatment was finished in January, and I understand how you might be feeling. It seems like those feelings are tougher now than before, and maybe because I feel better, but I'm still not comfortable with who I see in the mirror. When I felt sick, I didn't care that much if I looked sick. Since we're in the same boat, I can't really answer your question, but I try to follow Nancebeth's advice, get back into a routine and doing things I enjoy. I still have times of fatigue, but I can do more than I could during treatment, and am trying to enjoy the little things in life. Good luck!

      over 3 years ago
    • Kathy's Avatar

      My treatment finished exactly 5 months ago today. The way I have endured is reaching out to the folks here, seeing a social worker who specializes in cancer and I just finished a 6 week cancer transition class. One thing that has helped is knowing that my feelings are very common!! If you are able to look at my past questions who will see what I've been through and the very helpful and caring responses I have received. I think the key is to connect with other survivors. Hope my answer has helped you a little. Take care.

      over 3 years ago
    • Kathy's Avatar

      Adding: You are seeing things thru the lense of being a cancer survivor. Everything looks and feels different and for me and many others this is tough stuff. For me it also has had a way of resurrecting my past hurts, struggles and losses. Just want to say I feel your pain.

      over 3 years ago
    • Carol-Charlie's Avatar

      Ask God to take your fear and hold it for awhile. He'll do it. I gave him my fear, 7+ years ago when diagnosed with Stage IV Ovarian Cancer. the surgeon removed all the cancer he could see... and it turned out to be all of it. Thus they upgraded me to IIIC. I did two years of chemo and about five PET CT Scans... Last year they saw something...wanted to do a biopsy... the fear jumped into my throat... I raised my hand and I felt His presence as my mind heard His words. "I'm still here, I still have your hand"... and he did. When they removed the biopsy piece they told me that they now could see what it was and... They'd send it in, but they knew it was not malignant. KKelly... trust, believe and know. I couldn't believe how I looked... bald was not pretty on me. Steroid bloated was also not my best look. I love to hear people tell me that I was looking pretty bad and how great I look now. You'll turn to the mirror soon and recognize your beautiful self. Trust me. God bless you and keep you safe.

      over 3 years ago
    • Pheonix's Avatar

      Yes I remember fearing I may never be or look the same. There is a change which I believe remains with us. The scans go very well because you go there in the mind set of this is over, treatments were successful & the scans will come back normal. Make this belief part of you and you'll find you will move ahead & beyond this.

      over 3 years ago

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