• How would you handle being at a family member's house for a Christmas dinner.....

    Asked by Bloodproblems on Friday, December 13, 2019

    How would you handle being at a family member's house for a Christmas dinner.....

    and someone that you don't get along with at all is there and you really don't want to interact with them at all, as matter of fact I don't even want to see them.

    Treatments have me in a funky mood. I'm mad, tired, depressed and not in a mood for putting up with or even listening to any of their usual crap. I may not even go, it's not worth the stress.

    9 Answers from the Community

    9 answers
    • Leuky's Avatar
      Leuky

      Dealing with the reality that I have cancer, a life threatening condition, has given me a big dose of courage! I no longer put up with any crap from people like that. I would march right into that dinner and be ready to knock whoever wants to come with their drama down a few notches. I have no time for it and won't waste my life worrying about what someone says or thinks, but I won't stand by and take inconsiderate, or plain old stupid comments any longer. You go and enjoy, and if you have to, then knock someone down a couple notches.

      about 1 month ago
    • cllinda's Avatar
      cllinda

      Love that answer! It's hard when you go to someone else's house for a gathering. Just ignore them and enjoy yourself. Sit as far away as possible if you can. Don't make small talk with this person. If you knit or crochet, bring it with to keep you busy. Hugs.

      about 1 month ago
    • Dawsonsmom's Avatar
      Dawsonsmom

      I have found that ignoring or changing the subject without acknowledging their crap works for me. When that fails, I generally go into another room or engage with someone else about something pleasant. Pushing against something seems to only add to it and my goal is to manage my stress and let others take care of theirs.

      about 1 month ago
    • Bengal's Avatar
      Bengal

      It's ultimately your choice. If you truly feel that uncomfortable to be in the presence of this particular person then don't put yourself in that position. If your family member insists on inviting that person just make your excuses and stay away. You have the right.

      about 1 month ago
    • lynniepoo's Avatar
      lynniepoo

      I decided long ago that people’s drama isn’t worth worrying about. If I happen to run into someone I don’t want to be around I totally ignore them, find someone I enjoy and talk to them and stay as far away from the person as I can get. I won’t let that person control what I do and who I can be with. You should be able to enjoy your family in spite of that person. Don’t let them ruin your time with family. IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE. Just walk away and find someone else. Good luck and be strong, you have the right to your family’s support.

      about 1 month ago
    • MickyM's Avatar
      MickyM

      I agree that it's your choice, and what you're comfortable handling (or not). For me it might depend on how much I like the other people there and want to spend time with them. If I'm meh about most everybody else, I'd skip it. If I want to see the others but avoid the jerk, I might try to schedule other get-togethers, or ask them to.

      about 1 month ago
    • cards7up's Avatar
      cards7up

      If you don't think you'll enjoy yourself at all, why go? We just answered a similar question here. If you don't want to go, then don't!

      about 1 month ago
    • MerryMaid's Avatar
      MerryMaid

      yeah, I don't do that anymore. Those people that come to your house and never so much as say hi to you or thank you for hosting a dinner or family get together. We have a niece that's that way. It used to bother me but anymore I just treat her like she doesn't exist. I won't worry myself with whether or not someone talks to me, likes me, hates me, I just don't care anymore, I have bigger fish to fry.

      about 1 month ago
    • Bloodproblems' Avatar
      Bloodproblems

      Thanks for your input. I'm feeling much better about this dinner than I was.

      about 1 month ago

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