• I am a daughter but I am a nurse. My dad diagnosis’s is stage 3 pancreatic cancer. Having trouble turning the nurse voice off in my head

    Asked by Pcwink on Wednesday, December 12, 2018

    I am a daughter but I am a nurse. My dad diagnosis’s is stage 3 pancreatic cancer. Having trouble turning the nurse voice off in my head

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    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      That's understandable. As a nurse, you must know that many patients beat the stats. As a daughter, you can hope and pray that your dad will be one of those. You will know better than most how to make him comfortable because you are a nurse. Because you are his daughter, you know how to love him. Stats say stage 3 pancreatic cancer is not a good diagnosis, but every day someone is beating the odds ... I hope and pray your dad will be one of those.

      3 months ago
    • Gumpus61's Avatar
      Gumpus61

      You might be in a position to take advantage of your unique situation. Perhaps a conversation with Dad about using your experience to help him as his Dignity Police. If the Disease does progress, Volunteer to be there to say it is OK if or when he wants to throw in the towel. You don't have to be a nurse to have "nurse thoughts" go through your head LOL ! Caregivers hope for the best always, but are less served by denial when considering the hard facts. I will tell you this.....they do not follow the rules the charts or the law of averages anyway !

      3 months ago
    • JaneA's Avatar
      JaneA

      Miracles with pancreatic cancer happen - I attend a cancer wellness program with a woman who is an 8-year pancreatic cancer survivor.

      So focus on loving him, help him manage the treatment side effects, and remember the medical miracles that you have witnessed.

      3 months ago
    • carm's Avatar
      carm

      @Pcwink,
      I too am a nurse, an oncology nurse. It can be hard to turn that part off because it truly is a calling. However, if it helps just think of what your father needs more...a daughter or a nurse. I think sometimes we have to step aside and become the person we have the most expertise in, and you have been a daughter a lot longer than a nurse. Best of luck to you.

      3 months ago
    • DonnainRI's Avatar
      DonnainRI

      I am an RN and when my mother had lung Ca I found it very hard. My brother was not involved at all in her care. After all the daughter that's a nurse, gets to do that. One day about two wees before she died I asked my sister-in-law to help me turn her and the look I got was withering. I was so disgusted. They sat there drinking tea and coffee and waiting to be fed while Mom was dying but they did not help. My Dad did what he could and took over her care when I was working. I went out on leave about a week before she died because it had gotten too much to care for Mom and run my butt off in the ER for 8 hours every night. It was the hardest time in my life. Having cancer myself is hard, but not as hard as that was.

      3 months ago
    • KB2013's Avatar
      KB2013

      DonnainRI...you are a great lady of compassion, a devoted daughter of exceptional fortitude, your mother was indeed blessed. Wishing you the very best.

      3 months ago

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