• I am having a horrible time with my anxiety

    Asked by HearMeRoar on Wednesday, August 14, 2019

    I am having a horrible time with my anxiety

    Please help I’m a BC 6 year survivor and I just got endometrial from the XXX BC treatment and I am just hurting so bad and I think my body is consumed with anxiety related physical and emotional pain. It just feels like it’s here to take me this time and I hate this so much for my boys I don’t know what to do. My husband is strong but I don’t want to burden him either what if I’m dying omg

    16 Answers from the Community

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      I can honestly say I know how you feel. I was where you are during my last diagnosis. I had already been told years ago that if it came back a third time that it would be "difficult to control". I had myself already done for. I researched my "numbers" the survival rate wasn't good, the 5 year survival rate was worse, I felt like I had no chance. That is until I met my oncologist who said, "we do this every day, this is nothing". I was put at ease right then. So, maybe if you get a good meeting with your docs and find out what the plan is and what their thoughts are, you will feel better.

      4 months ago
    • beachbum5817's Avatar
      beachbum5817

      I, too, have felt this way. It is hard to not go to the dark places. Have you asked your doctors to prescribe some anti-anxiety medicines? I don't know what state you live in, but if it is available, you may want to look into medical marijuana. I have found this to help with my lingering side-effects as well my anxiety bad moods. Lean on your husband and share your concerns with him. I am sure he would not think that you are a burden. We are also here to help in any way that we can from a distance. Take care.

      4 months ago
    • omaalyce's Avatar
      omaalyce

      Like beachbum58 I was prescribed medical marijuana to help my anxiety, pain and sleep. It truly has helped me immensely. I have two different strains as well as cream. The one strain is for the day and it takes off the edge. The other is to help me sleep at night. The cream helps with the pain from my neuropathy in my hands and feet and osteopenia in my hip, back and neck. I also think you should talk with your husband and explain how hard it is to deal with this anxiety daily. I know when I did my husband was relieved to finally know what's bothering me. I am blessed with an amazing support group that I can talk to. And it helps, as beachbum58 said we are here and we always support you. Take care of yourself and you are not alone.

      4 months ago
    • gpgirl70's Avatar
      gpgirl70

      I got thyroid cancer diagnosis after treatment for stage 3c breast cancer. My anxiety was off the charts. I thought it would be with me forever. Would I ever have a minute’s peace? I confided in my oncologist and she got me a referral to a therapist and a prescription for anxiety meds for the short term. I Saw the therapist weekly for a few months and now I see her every 3 weeks. My primary care switched me from anxiety meds to an anti-depressant. I still have moments of anxiety but I now feel happy and hopeful. So my advice is reach out for help. I also planned activities, even during treatment so I had things to look forward to. Something as simple as date night or a day trip with my family. It will get better! I hope you feel some peace soon.

      4 months ago
    • TerriL's Avatar
      TerriL

      Please talk to your doctor! They can prescribe anti-anxiety meds which will help immensely. Like gpgirl70 mentioned, also plan activities and fun things to do with your husband and children. I am praying for you.

      4 months ago
    • 2943's Avatar
      2943

      I equated my feelings to spring rains. Rainy, cold and then the warm sun comes out. Birds sing, plants bloom. Yes, clouds go over and block those warm rays but a gentle breeze moves them away. You are not alone in your feelings. Any of us have had these ugly days. Communicate with your medical team and family, friends, and us. It will get better! Hugs!!!

      4 months ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      First, breathe. I know it's scary, but I believe you've got this. As has been suggested, anti-anxiety meds help. Ativan is my friend, especially when I was in treatment. Couldn't take it during the day, but boy did it help shut my brain down at night. Also, you might want to look at getting into a mediation group -- if you are living in the now it might help the anxiety. I'm so sorry you are in pain both physically & mentally. Do you have a treatment plan set yet? I know my anxiety went down once I had a path to follow. Hugs! Hope you feel better soon.

      4 months ago
    • Kylerem's Avatar
      Kylerem

      I feel your pain. I too have trouble staying away from the dark places and have bouts of anxiety.
      My oncologist did refer me to a therapist which really helped and now I go to a monthly support group which honestly helps more than the therapist. This site also helps me to realize that what I’m going through is normal. Ativan for sleep when it gets really bad and lots of distraction-friends, family, reading, anything to keep my mind off the “What ifs”. And as fast as these thoughts come on, they go away and I notice that all of a sudden I feel better. Better days are ahead for you!

      4 months ago
    • Lorie's Avatar
      Lorie

      I'm there with you girlfriend you should talk to your doctors about the pain tho.
      Mine is just in my head and I do have meds that help but I'm now trying the CBD oil to hopefully get off of them. If not I will go the medical Mary Jane route even though I did not like the effects of it when I was much younger hopefully it's different now

      4 months ago
    • HotRodTodd's Avatar
      HotRodTodd

      When I was first diagnosed I couldn't catch my breath. it literally took my breath away. I almost passed out. For weeks I couldn't sleep, I couldn't keep dying off of my mind. I thought this was it the one thing that I wouldn't survive. Several times through the week I would have episodes where I would have trouble breathing, get dizzy, and have what I will assume was a panic attack. After I started treatments and things started improving is when I finally started to get out of that stage. Hang in there, I bet once you get a plan and get started on your path that you will start to handle it better.

      4 months ago
    • Carool's Avatar
      Carool

      I was always a very anxious person, even before b.c. When diagnosed, I was convinced, even with a stage 1 cancer, that I didn’t have long to live (it’s been 20 years now). Finally, I went to a psychiatrist who dealt with breast cancer survivors - she was at my hospital - and have been on a low dose of an antidepressant/anti-anxiety med, Lexapro, ever since. It has helped.

      A support group helped me immensely during my treatments (back then there were no online groups, at least from what I was aware of). If groups are your thing, maybe you can find one. Sending you big hugs and hoping you can sometimes feel more hopeful.

      4 months ago
    • fluteplayer's Avatar
      fluteplayer

      wish I was stage one like I was in 1999 but it came back in 2011 even thou I took the chemo and radation as they said it would never come back if I did. well they lied and given 3-6 months to live in 2011. They lied again thank God. I know all about living in fear. we sweat every catscan and even a blood test as tumor marker keep going up,

      4 months ago
    • kalindria's Avatar
      kalindria

      Others have said to talk to your doctors about drugs to address your anxiety. I agree completely. If it's legal where you are, marijuana might help too. Meditation, yoga, exercise, seeing a counselor, walking in nature may help too. I have "down" times when I need to recenter and these things help me. Of course, I also find that talking to my friends here at WhatNext is helpful and calming as well.

      4 months ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      HearMeRoar, what a powerful screen name. When I was diagnosed I was riddled with anxiety. My go realized I was an emotional mess and prescribed a mild , stress mild, antidepressant. I was reluctant but gave it a try. My anxiety lessened considerably and contrary to being mentally foggy, I became strengthened and focused. So, consider this. Also, open up to your husband about your fears and concerns. You are partners through the good times and the bad. Shouldering this feeling of anxiety by yourself is doing both of you a disservice. Getting out and exercising helps . Mediation tapes are useful. Look forward , and take things one day at a time .
      Wishing you better days ahead.

      4 months ago
    • Bengal's Avatar
      Bengal

      Unfortunately anxiety and depression are big parts of the game. Great advice in all these comments. I try to avoid adding ever more pharmaceuticals but did agree to Xanax to help with anxiety. I sometimes take one at bedtime to allow me to get some sleep but am determined not to become dependent on it. I attend a cancer support group at our hospital, see a mental health counselor regularly and am so grateful to the person who introduced me to What'sNext. Just having people to talk to, rant at or listen to what others are dealing with which sometimes makes my issues pale by comparison; it all helps. Sometimes you just have to let the anxiety play out. Just last night I spontaneously started to cry and realized I was shouting, "I don't want to do this anymore!". But we pick ourselves up and do what we need to do to keep moving forward. Best of luck to you; and please believe alot of folks have got your back.

      4 months ago
    • peachpoppy's Avatar
      peachpoppy

      I haven't been on this site in years and for some reason have been feeling compelled to check in. And so thankful that you are all still here! Anyway, maybe I needed to see this post and tell you that you've got this. I think we were diagnosed at the same time with bc. in 2013? and I remember the strength you had and what a positive influence you were on scared little me. So I just wanted to tell you that everything will be ok. You are Hear Me Roar after all.

      3 months ago

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