• I'd love to talk to someone whose mother has lung cancer.

    Asked by klstenzel on Wednesday, January 30, 2013

    I'd love to talk to someone whose mother has lung cancer.

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      My mother had lung cancer. What can I answer for you?

      about 4 years ago
    • klstenzel's Avatar
      klstenzel

      Thanks for responding. I guess this is really more generic as it has to do with how to interact now with my Mother... can I talk about other things than her cancer? I feel quite guilty talking about things in my life.

      about 4 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      It is a strange feeling when you start talking, you feel like you need to talk about the cancer and what to do, and all the details. But you don't, sometimes cancer patients just don't want to talk about it. My suggestion is to just talk to her, if she wants to talk about the cancer, then do. If not just talk about the other things that you would have any other day. I put my mother in our house when she was to the point that we were worried about her getting too weak and maybe fall, or just needed help with things. We were there 24 7. We would talk about anything she wanted. I made sure she had what she wanted, special things to eat, when she would eat. Took her a few places when she felt like going. We just enjoyed the time we had and didn't dwell on the fact that the days were numbered.

      I learned more about my mom and dad in the last 6 months of each of theri lives than I did the previous 45yrs.

      It's a hard thing to do, but you and she will be Ok through it. Let me know if you have questions we can help with.

      about 4 years ago
    • Nancebeth's Avatar
      Nancebeth

      My mother also had lung cancer. She and I did not really talk about her cancer too much as she just wanted me near and we talked about mundane things, day to day life.

      about 4 years ago
    • Johneen's Avatar
      Johneen

      I have lung cancer and want to discuss anything but cancer. It's seems to be all anyone wants to talk about with me, I hate it.

      about 4 years ago
    • smeyer's Avatar
      smeyer

      My mom who has never smoked a day in her life was recently diagnosed with lung cancer. I call her almost every day to see how she's feeling. Once we get past that, we'll discuss other things going on in our lives. But, if she's feeling particularly bad that day, we may only discuss the cancer. I think sometimes she's looking for someone other than my dad to bounce things off of.

      about 4 years ago
    • dropsofjupiter's Avatar
      dropsofjupiter

      My dad was diagnosed w/ SCLC 6 months ago. Since then, he and I have gotten closer than we have ever been. I call him every day, sometimes twice a day. I call him not just for him, but for me as well. Knowing that our time is limited, I think we have a mutual understanding that we will just communicate more from here on out. We don't always talk about how he feels, although I have told him a few times that I always want to know if he wants to talk about it. Basically, the floor is his. He says that just knowing that his family is here for him is comforting...even if there's no reason to call. We can always find something to talk about outside of the cancer.

      about 4 years ago
    • klstenzel's Avatar
      klstenzel

      Thank you all for your answers. You've given me much guidance on how to talk with my Mother.

      about 4 years ago
    • snuzsuz's Avatar
      snuzsuz

      I am a mother of 3 and 2 grandchildren and I have lung cancer since last October. I think your Mom would love to hear about your day and just spend some time with you. Like Greg said, I have been closer to my children in this last year then I was their first 34, 38, and 39 years! I really enjoy that they take the time to call me and see if I need anything, but also just to talk about their lives and invite me when they do things together. Even when I don't feel up to doing things, it's always nice to be invited! and hear about what fun they had afterwards. There is a time when you feel like ALL you talk about is your cancer, it seems to consume every part of your life, so hearing about "normal" living is nice! Hope this helps:)

      about 4 years ago

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