• I find myself worrying about how everyone else is worrying about me. It seems like a whole lot of wasted worrying.

    Asked by Rider on Saturday, March 17, 2018

    I find myself worrying about how everyone else is worrying about me. It seems like a whole lot of wasted worrying.

    But I can't help it, I worry about everyone else, but I'm not worried about myself at all. This might seem weird, but I was wondering if anyone else does this?

    7 Answers from the Community

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    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I am not by nature a worrier, but i definitely do worry, when i worry, far more about other people than about myself. I worry VERY little about myself.

      6 months ago
    • cards7up's Avatar
      cards7up

      Worrying changes nothing and can cause you more illness. Why bother! I have thoughts of worrying and then tell myself, nothing I can do and it will work itself out. Which is true most of the time.

      6 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I worry about my children, what mother doesn't. But my worry is tinged with guilt. To be concerned for others makes you human. Now translate your worry into action. If those people are near give them a hug. If they are far away send them an email telling them you love them. And above all tell them how much you appreciate their concern.

      6 months ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      I know that feeling you're not alone, I'm sure a lot of us have that too. I do. I often think about my Wife, how she would manage with me gone, have I taken care of everything, will she be alright, is she scared or worrying about me being sick, and others. But I do agree with Cards7up that worrying doesn't change anything, make it better, or keep anything from happening.

      6 months ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      We can't help worrying so maybe we can limit it by staying busy. It just comes with the territory. 99% of things people worry about never happen but with us it's a little bit more.

      6 months ago
    • buddaahman's Avatar
      buddaahman

      i understand how you feel i always worry about others and i try not to burden them with my problems when i know they have enough to deal with. i tend to keep everything to myself that i think will cause more stress about me but i still want them to be open with me about their problems
      when others ask how i am doing i always answer that i am fine

      6 months ago
    • banditwalker's Avatar
      banditwalker

      Maybe it's your way of keeping your mind on others problems instead of your own. You know, so you don't get all worked up about your outcome. Either way, when you find yourself worrying unnecessarily, take 10 minutes to sit quiet and try to let it go. barryboomer is right about keeping busy.

      6 months ago

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