• I have a huge lump in my neck; my surgery is scheduled. How do I handle questions from people at work ,

    Asked by RockTom on Tuesday, February 19, 2013

    I have a huge lump in my neck; my surgery is scheduled. How do I handle questions from people at work ,

    or even strangers who ask me “What is wrong with your neck??” I think it’s rude of them, but I have to say something, right?

    6 Answers from the Community

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    • nancyjac's Avatar
      nancyjac

      No you don't. Or you could simply say, when I find out I will let you know.

      over 4 years ago
    • DougG's Avatar
      DougG

      You don't owe anyone an answer, but if you want to respond you can joke with them and tell them you swallowed a ball or something. Or you can tell the truth if you want. I think people are curious but some justdon't know how to ask you

      over 4 years ago
    • DougG's Avatar
      DougG

      You don't owe anyone an answer, but if you want to respond you can joke with them and tell them you swallowed a ball or something. Or you can tell the truth if you want. I think people are curious but some just don't know how to ask tactfully.

      over 4 years ago
    • berly462005's Avatar
      berly462005

      I had a huge lump in my neck and I honestly thought it was an infection. Let them stare, who cares? After a while with cancer whether its your port or hair loss or whatever you kinda get used to people staring. You sure don't owe them an explanation!

      over 4 years ago
    • steveo's Avatar
      steveo

      I agree with the previous answers about not owing anyone a response. It's okay to not respond, to joke about it, to give an open straightforward answer...and it is okay that your comfort with it could change even within the same hour. The important part is to give yourself the space to process and engage it or not. At the end of the day it is your body and your health that is important.

      My brother figured I was growing a second head so he named the lump in my neck.

      Wishing you all the best with your surgery!

      over 4 years ago
    • WonderKitty's Avatar
      WonderKitty

      Nope. If you don't want to be rude back to them, just politely say "that's none of your business." Because it isn't. You only have to tell them what you want to tell them. I found I was much more likely to tell people anything at the beginning. The longer I got into treatment, the more I didn't want to talk about it. I had Hodgkin's Disease and had a large lump on my neck as well. I was able to hide it with scarves, but I guess that wouldn't really work for you :) Good luck!

      over 4 years ago

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