• I have been devastated that my family has been less than supportive, especially emotionally. Has anyone experienced anything similar?

    Asked by Effiemae on Thursday, August 16, 2012

    I have been devastated that my family has been less than supportive, especially emotionally. Has anyone experienced anything similar?

    I know everyone has to deal with this in his or her way, and maybe denial is one of them.

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    • bjriise's Avatar
      bjriise

      I have been very lucky that I have my mom supporting me. I do not know what I would do without her. I have 2 sisters who who I hardly hear from. One of my sisters acts very weird every time I talk to her. It is like she can't deal with my diagnosis at all so she ignores me. My oldest sister is always busy. My friends that I thought would be there to help me through this have all been very distant they are "too busy" to even keep in touch. My Fiance helps some but I can't even really talk to him because he says it upsets him too much to talk about it. He is "too busy" too. My 24 old daughter does not know how to deal with me being sick so she is in denial too. I have had strangers be more supportive than my family and friends. It is very depressing.

      over 8 years ago
    • DreamyKath's Avatar
      DreamyKath

      I have had a very similar experience. I figured out that I have always been the one to take care of and emotionally support everyone around me, and they've never had to do it. It inconveniences them now that I am the one who needs the support. I haven't even spoken to my sister or brother in months. I don't blame them. Most people don't know what to say. My daughter has been less than helpful around the house, although when it comes to support I have to say that she's been the one who has taken me to most of my chemo infusion appointments. She even hangs out with me the entire time. Try not to let others bum you out with their lack of support. They don't really understand.

      over 8 years ago
    • martyjean's Avatar
      martyjean

      I am having the same issues. My son has been fantastic...has done all the driving to appointments In Boston....no easy task! My husband.....does not handle any of this good. I have stopped talking to him about it as it ends in a fight. I feel like I am inconveniencing him,..in sickness or in health, but only if its convenient? Am so glad to have found this sight.... On the other hand, all my sisters, brothers and Mom have been wonderful....I am blessed in this area...

      almost 6 years ago

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